Together, you can replace the settee with one you can use together, as you build new, happy memories.
This is a really good question. I love that you are so aware of your feelings.
If my WH hid something like this from me I would be both hurt and FURIOUS. Like he's hiding it from me because it's a special memory or something.
If your BS already knows, then is it a trigger for them? I guess not, because then you probably would have gotten rid of it already.....
Anyway, as a BS, I would appreciate my WS sharing such a thing with me - and we would not need to discuss getting rid of it, it would have been gone SO FAST his head would still be spinning.
I would be upset about something like that being kept from me, but would appreciate the honesty about the trigger.
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
Take a laptop out there and watch his favouirite movie with some wine.
Have kids? Read to them there.
Make a happy family memory involving it and then focus on that when the trigger hits.
Take it back.
[This message edited by Twitchy at 8:17 AM, May 27th (Monday)]
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[This message edited by Tiredofthepain at 6:30 PM, May 27th (Monday)]