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So I am finally coming to terms with the fact that I will have to be the one who files for divorce.

My state offers regular divorce or mediation. It's a no fault state. I am trying to figure out which path to take.

Mediation would be half the price. We have no kids and property separation would probably be easy. We have only been married for 5 years. However, I would really like to stick it to him and have him served.

What do you guys think?

How quickly do you want it to be over? How likely is he to work civilly toward an agreement? How much money do you want to give an attorney for, possibly, the exact same outcome?

Those are the kind of questions you need to ask. I could go either way and am trying for the faster, easier dissolution because I want POS out of my life as quickly as possible. I have plenty of evidence to go the ugly route and could file for D on grounds of adultery, but I just want him gone. Spending the extra legal money may give me personal satisfaction, but because we are an equal distribution state, it won't change the final outcome in any way (except make some attorneys richer). My practical side is ruling my emotional side, even though I would love nothing more than to humiliate him in a courtroom...

If you just want to have him served, can't you file yourself and still do mediation? Or have a lawyer file for you and then go through mediation? In my state, it's not an either/or choice before filing. You can do either one AFTER you are served or have someone served. Personally I'd let it go, but if it means that much to you...lol