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LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 5:57 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
Hi all,
We left the house Sat. afternoon with not much of a plan but fully intent on enjoying our time sans kids. And we did!
Got a great deal on a hotel via hotwire, had a delish lunch, hair cut for H and style for me, checked into the hotel and just relaxed. Okay, okay, there was some "what not" goin' on which was all goooood!
We had a delicious Italian dinner and talked so much! My H acknowledged that even though he thought he was present for us while in the A - good provider, great dad, he now realizes he was NOT fully there with us, the rest of his family and some of his friends. He realizes not only the depth of his lies but the breadth too - how far reaching they are. He feels sad about this but I reassured him that the fact that he sees this and says it out loud is healing to both of us. I thanked him for sharing. I also apologized to him for the times in our marriage when I was not friendly, interested in him. The times when I was pushing him away. He thanked me for that.
We grabbed a nightcap at a fun new spot around the corner and made our way home. More "what not", lots of laughter and then sleep!
He tells me I am beautiful and that he loves me every day.
We capped off the next day with a great breakfast and a drive to see the ocean. We hadn't been to this tourist site in 20 years...it was a lovely time and I wanted to share it with you.
We are in full R with him leading the way.
LA
[This message edited by LA44 at 11:58 AM, May 27th (Monday)]
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
tryinghard2013 ( member #37981) posted at 6:00 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
That's so wonderful enjoy your time with your hubby I'm so happy for you!
RoadtoPeace ( new member #39141) posted at 7:18 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
Thanks LA44. I like to see such lovely stories of couples in R.
me - BS
him - WH
Married 5 1/2 years
Dday#1 - 10/2009
Dday#2 - 3/2013
Status - He wants R, I am not sure I can get on that ride again
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 8:41 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
.. 
.."what's not" to like about a story like this??? 
..glad that you had a great time..
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 1:36 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Thanks guys and gals! It feels good to post this...I never would have imagined it a few months ago.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
OptimisticWife ( member #36587) posted at 1:46 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Such a fantastic post! So happy for you both
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 1:50 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Wonderful to hear...so glad that he is getting it.
There is definitely something to be said for history! 
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
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