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roughroadahead posted 5/27/2013 12:10 PM

So today is my birthday. Waffle returned the kids after the memorial day parade. He got me a card (from the kids), flowers (from each of the boys), a cake ("happy birthday mommy") and candles.

So bittersweet. How did thoughtful guy become selfish evil whore fucker?

ButterflyGirl posted 5/27/2013 12:20 PM

In a post about Mother's Day, one woman wrote, "If he doesn't do anything, I think he's a POS. If he does do something, I think he's a POS. Basically, I just think he's a POS."

This is how I feel, and maybe you do too. They just can't win anymore no matter what they do..

I would forget about that fool and focus on having a fabulous birthday with your kids. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

solus sto posted 5/27/2013 13:46 PM

Happy birthday

jo2love posted 5/27/2013 15:17 PM

Happy Birthday!
I'm glad you can celebrate with your boys.

dmari posted 5/27/2013 15:37 PM

Happy Birthday!!!

Elaine2012 posted 5/27/2013 16:17 PM

(((Dmari)))
Happy Birthday!

PurpleRose posted 5/27/2013 16:50 PM

Happy birthday! Don't spend another second wondering why he does anything anymore, none of it will make sense anyways.

scotslass posted 5/27/2013 17:51 PM

Happy Birthday!

Linus1968 posted 5/27/2013 18:44 PM

My WW did not make time for my children to see on my birthday yesterday. As of last Monday, they would be. Then I get a text from my DD on Friday "We are going out of town." I spent it yesterday with friends. I did see them today, and we had a beach day. She did send a text "happy birthday". Gee, thanks. Now I feel guilty for not sending a happy mother's day text. NOT!!! The best present from her would be she not send it and to hand me divorce papers.
Your WH is trying to show he is a big man trying to be the friendly one after blowing up the family. In June, kick him in the gonads and say "happy father's day." Almost the same thing, except, adultery hurts worst. I would do it to my WW if she had a pair. Maybe I will do it by proxy to the OM.
By the way, Happy Birthday!!!

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roughroadahead posted 5/27/2013 19:45 PM

Fortunately, it is spelled out in the visitation plan that regardless of whose day it would normally be, they spend birthdays with the relevant parents.

As for him being friendly, that is exactly how he got the nickname "waffle". He has been beyond friendly at times, like a desperate attempt to feel like he's doing the "right thing" in the face of blowing up his family with such destructive decisions. There have been tears, texts about (somewhat) uncomfortable beds, texts saying "we should sit down and talk", texts saying that MOW was "disgusting and wrong", voluntary tests for STDs, and on and on. What's missing? Actually ending it with MOW.