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hexed posted 5/27/2013 13:16 PM

I am so sick of things today.

My dad officially bailed out on coming to DS graduation.

My X is in town but has the planning skills of a 4yr old which is causing my DS stress and he is lashing out at me. Why the hell couldn't he just make a plan and tell DS when he wanted to spend time with him this weekend instead of being an ass.

I told DS to have him meet my X up the road at the McDonald's parking lot and go from there. DS thought dad and OW could pick him up at our house. NO WAY IN HELL. OW is not going to infect my new home with her presence. DS doesn't know she's OW. Not his fault but that just pissed me off too.

No question really just fucking pissed at the world

gma56 posted 5/27/2013 13:22 PM

Just having to deal with POSXH and his OWife will ruin a perfectly good day !
Congrats DS and Mom ! He made it !

FaithFool posted 5/27/2013 14:03 PM

Hexed, in this case I'd reconsider. Let x come and get him at the house.

It's DS special day. Let the adults take a backseat and let him see you take the high road here...Just my 2 cents.

hexed posted 5/27/2013 14:18 PM

FF -- You're probably right. That would be the mature thing to do. Graduation is tomorrow. DS has a driver's license.

I value my home in part as a place that OW never was. If X came w/o OW that would be fine. I won't have her at my home. I'm just not mature enough to handle that.

I just hate that my X can't make a plan. My dad doesn't value me enough to come unless he gets to play the role of 'hero' in some form. My DS gets dramatic anytime he's forced to figure something out on his own -- where to meet his dad for lunch. I get to deal with all of their BS. SCREW THAT! I'm tired. I just want to enjoy DS graduating w/o extemporaneous nonsense!

I'm being spoiled and immature. I know it. I just can't make myself stop.

MyVoice posted 5/27/2013 16:43 PM

Hey congrats to your DS

I can't imagine how hard it is for you with DS not knowing she is the OW, you aren't spoiled and immature because you want to stand your ground on this point of self-respect!

Your ex being a complete flibbertigibbet is sad for your DS, but step back it's not your responsibility, stop stressing over others short comings they are not in your control, what they do is not your problem, take a big breath and be glad you are so wonderful and there for your DS.

Concentrate on your own little bubble of happy with your DS on his special day, choose to focus on all the amazing vibes of the day, make it those great things that you guys will remember in years to come.

better4me posted 5/27/2013 19:08 PM

I get it. It is okay to whine and act immature sometimes. Tomorrow is another day. Congratulations to your DS!

gardenparty posted 5/27/2013 21:10 PM

I am with you on my EX and OW never being in the vicinity of my home. It is MY HOME. I have busted my ass for almost 7 years and it is my sanctuary. Nothing of EX exists here and I want no memories of him and her at my house. As for your son, wonderful that he is graduating but you are right, he is an adult and can arrange his own schedule. Kids though can stab you through the heart and never even realize that they have eh.