So, OW forwards an email to WH (not me!) and he (her BS) is asking it if he has done something because we (WH and I) are "cold" when he talks to us. WTF? Its email says "You two have left me no choice". Really? Choice to do what? You made your choice when you went after a married man. Tell him you were sleeping with MY WH? I'm fine with it telling him. I wanted to, but didn't because of the girls. Didn't want them to have to deal with the backlash.
It received the email from its BS late Friday night - didn't forward - to WH only, not me!- until this morning, after WH was at work. Sent to both personal and work emails. I told WH that it is fishing, looking for a way to wiggle back into his life. Looking for a response from him so it can respond back. If it was REALLY concerned, it would forward email to both of us. My response is no response. Go fish somewhere else. Thoughts?
[This message edited by 3kids30years at 2:47 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)]
Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.
Why are her emails not bouncing? They should be blocked IMHO.
If not, I would look into it now. Just a thought...
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WH received the one at work and then checked his spam folder. He did contact me immediately (at least from the date stamp of the email). I'll have to check and see how to just let it bounce back to it.
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Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
The BH being in the dark is also going to continue making assumptions about your behavior.
Don't respond to her but don't be surprised if this continues indefinitely.
- Ricky
As far as the girls (daughers) I don't understand... what backlash? Is it not possible to keep this between the adults only?
Yes, she may be fishing...and after her BH find out she may wish she never threw out the line.
But I suggest that you do it by exposing her to her BH. You should have done that a long time ago.
Also, there is more than one soccer team out there. Please separate you kids from their kids.
My Affair/OC: 2015 Status: trying to pick up the pieces.
The fact that she sent the same email to her BH and your WH tells me that she is keeping her dirty little secret and banking on you and your WH not saying anything since they are "separated." Perhaps his "separation" will lead to "divorce" if he knows the truth.
My advice is to send a strongly worded No Contact letter to the OW, including the threat of harassment if she bothers you by this means again.
And I would DEFINITELY tell the BH what you know so that he can make his own decisions regarding his marriage. She is obviously lying to him, and completely using him by including him in the "why can't we just be friends" email. This is and of itself proves that they are not fully separated as they are talking to each and working as a team to try to keep mutual friends..
I feel so very sorry for betrayed spouses who are kept in the dark, and the people who continue to keep the secrets from him give him much more pain than you can imagine.. That was one of the most painful things for me after D-Day when I was trying to figure out who knew and who didn't, and you definitely don't want to be part of the problem here causing his pain.. Please tell him everything you know. This woman is using and manipulating him, and it's just not fair to him..
Good luck to you..
ETA- Just a thought, but perhaps you are being kept in the dark with these emails as he knows more than he is letting on and is trying to deceive you, as he doesn't think you know the truth. I really think it's time for an honest conversation with the BH..
[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 11:23 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)]
Further, I would have your husband reply and add to it that any further contact from her will be considered harassment and you will be forced to take legal action protecting yourselves and your family from such harassment. That should shut her up- or give you a one way ticket to an attorney's office for a restraining order. Either way, not your problem anymore.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
I'd respond by email to her BS, explaining her behavior (A with your H) and cc her as well. I would also comment on failing to see why she would forward and share what was obviously personal correspondence b/w them with another married man. Just saying, that is pretty low if you ask me.
