Yes, we've already had promises broken regarding visits. Sometimes I've faced bullying from Perv because he's screwed up his calendar or purposely put something he "cannot cancel" on his weekend.
I am always willing to share my time, if it is in DD's best interest and I don't think of myself or plan for myself when it's my turn.
But I've also noticed some other Ex's who've cheated do this.
In another thread a week or two ago, I complained that Perv is complaining about the money for driving to visit DD and that broke my heart for her. He reminded me that his lawyer said it and not him and tried to say it was because expenses are high for him, but wasn't that his choice?
I was happier with the every weekend visits for DD because she could make a real pattern for her own mind and I see and hear her get very confused now. And as I said, he is not doing the rule that he himself wanted, so this is even more difficult for her.
The kids I know and I myself are all about making patterns in life and part of my anxt and anger at him is that he is not thinking of this for DD, rather, he is thinking of what's best for him-though if you mention this to him, you would get anger and surprise.
Thank you for explaining the custody terms. I've seen on the papers lately and been waiting for L to explain them.
One thing that Perv would do that was an anger trigger when he first abandoned us, was go through the school to get to DD and not me. He would go there and visit her and I would not be notified until I heard it from her. Do you know, that it was also my place of employment? The principal and secretary never told me he was doing that. I heard it, as I said, from DD and I actually got complaints from friends or other parents who got really annoyed because of some things about it, and I wouldn't even know he had been there.
I wanted to work that into one of the child care clauses, as it really did cause chaos and mistrust...more.
Another question regarding kids I've been working on is regarding the horrible things that OW did with DDs pictures. I had hoped there will be a way to be certain that she can't use pictures from our family or DD...or the baby -to -be again. Likewise, I wanted to say something about the giving of information about children and OW or future Ow, if that makes any sense?
It was such a violation of security and soooo bizarre and there was absolutely no permission for it.
Has anyone heard of this being done in a D decree?
Thank you.Ashland 13
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