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Just curious. I know infidelity is the focus of our site and so many of us have very common principles surrounding infidelity - namely, that we oppose it.

Outside of "no infidelity", what are some other principles you value in your relationship? What are things you're learning that are new, what things are you especially proud of, and what do you value? Or, if you're not in a relationship, what things would you want for your next one, for a healthy one?

Financial stability. Moderation. Responsibility. The ability to communicate well. Respect. Equality.

Honesty, emotional openness and respect.

I think there would be incredible value in mutual trust. It almost seems superficial. Just the thought of it seems so emotionally peaceful.

Respect, warmth, and equality. God damn it, I need those things!

Respect, loyalty, honesty, intimacy.

I have been reading on a website called marriagebuilders

It has a lot of good stuff.

The things I am not getting from my WH

which are:
honesty, respect, good communication, and patience and
understanding.

ETA: Basically a heart, and to show the person they are with that they mean something to them, and they are a priority in their life, not just second best

[This message edited by scangel3 at 7:15 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]

Respect, consideration (as in treat your spouse better than anyone else you know) and never , ever, belittle them. Not even in jest.

* my WH used to call me "dummy" early on (yes, red flag) he always said I was way too book smart and had no common sense. I guess that factored Into trusting him.... Well, honey, my common sense/street smarts has come a long way....

Companionship, loving words and actions, gentle honesty (as opposed to brutal), open and honest communications, laughs and good sex of course.