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dmari posted 5/28/2013 22:30 PM

I just wanted to thank those who responded to my other post regarding getting a criminal defense attorney. And I'm sharing what happened just in case it can help someone else in a similar situation.

I did talk to, meet with, and retained a criminal defense attorney and THANK GOD I did. I didn't realize the seriousness of the situation. After all it's just a stupid fire extinguisher and keys!

Due to what the "stolen" property is worth, the case is a felony class c. I could have walked in tomorrow; have my rights read; give my statement; and I could have been processed!! WTF?!?!

So now my attorney will write a letter on behalf of me and this letter will go with the detectives report to the prosecutor. Then it is up to the prosecutor to decide what to do.

It has been a mentally exhausting day. I wish there was a Starbucks in my house. Thank you for your support and advice!! I seriously would not be where I'm at emotionally had it not been for all of you!! Love, dmari

hurtbs posted 5/28/2013 22:41 PM

I'm so sorry. Hang in there.

The crazy that these people create is horrific...

Nature_Girl posted 5/28/2013 22:45 PM

Dadgum! I'm glad you got a defense A, too! That's scary! So now that you know what your STBX is aiming for, you'll be even more vigilent, right?

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 11:34 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)]

Take2 posted 5/28/2013 22:51 PM

Wow - so glad you followed through dmari!! Wear your bitch boots! Oh - and F.T.G.!!

gonnabe2016 posted 5/28/2013 22:55 PM

Your WH is just an immature, mean dick to put you through all of this....

Sad in AZ posted 5/28/2013 22:59 PM

Not immature and mean; he's criminally abusing is authority.

courageous posted 5/29/2013 02:30 AM

I'm glad to hear you will be protected with your defense attorney. I'm so sorry you have to do that. Best wishes in court! Crush him! Don't let him get away with abusing his powers like that.

gonnabe2016 posted 5/29/2013 10:17 AM

he's criminally abusing is authority

itainteasy posted 5/29/2013 10:26 AM

I am so glad you got a defense attorney!

FTG. In the asshole with a rusty chainsaw.

tesla posted 5/29/2013 17:25 PM

I'm really glad that you got an attorney. Fuck that guy for abusing his power and being a doosh.

dmari posted 5/30/2013 01:30 AM

I love you guys

This incident has reminded me to always be vigilant. I'm in the process of accepting that this is my "new normal" ~ not living in fear but being vigilant (I like that word).

I realize that sometimes I "minimize" the bullshit he pulls. I used to blame it on mental illness because it's easier to accept than acknowledging he just truly is a selfish, delusional, cowardly, stupid, entitled POS!!

Thank you for handing me my bitch boots!!

caregiver9000 posted 5/30/2013 15:59 PM

vigilant is a good word.

I hope that like most bullies, when you show up prepared to fight back, aggressively defend yourself, and if appropriate counter attack! he'll find someone easier/more fun to target.

Remember: your emotional response is fuel. This was the most valuable thing I learned to do: NO RESPONSE. I practiced the vaguely distracted, disinterested, bored response.

Anything like fear, relief, worry, anger, aggravation, frustration, sadness, ANYTHING like this brings a new wave of attack.

(((hugs)))

AND THANK YOU for the update!!!