Your post is most timely for me. I have started the divorce process and at some point in time, will meet for a voluntary financial conference.
It has been 6 months since Dday, so I am still very emotional and reactive. I am hurt, angry and want my pound of flesh as well. This is not the frame of mind I want to be in when I go in for the negotiations. In truth, I'd rather not even be there, just let the judge make the decision and be done with it.
The money will never heal my heart, will never undo the devastation or pain I have been through for the past few months. I don't even know that I want my freedom right now.
In truth, I wish I had the life I thought I had, I wish I was married to the man I thought I was married to.
It is so hard to not think with my heart....I have to trust my attorney's to do their job and to allow myself some time to think things through and not just do a knee jerk reaction to whatever deal is offered.
I am happy to hear that you are doing so well and that life is good for you. Gives me hope that everything will be okay.