Hi HouseFull,
You said it!
During this "incident", Perv wanted me to know that I was disrespectful to him!!!!????
And "could have found a better word?"
Yes, I too have felt like it's interaction with someone not playing with the proverbial deck of cards.
How he can say DD is not bothered is beyond me, as daily I see and feel her grief and pain. Does he forget his contacts/glasses or is the tinting too thick?
Many of your posts have agreed with me as well, thank you for saying that. In the "beginning", his ploys and tactics used to work (maybe that would be a good saloon name?) and bring me right down to the dumps, but not so much any more...more like a bee sting that goes away pretty quickly.
Sometimes lately I snicker and am doubly glad now that I've spent the counseling time and money, so there is "professional backup" besides a plumber (attempt at humor).
His family is built of rug sweepers and it's so bad that nothing is dealt with until it's trauma, so I think for him, my way of trying to deal with problems and solve them so they don't keep coming back, is probably very odd? Some of them are really bad in his family, addictions and trouble with law.
You know, I've wondered sometimes lately that he must have had sheer exhaustion at times, to keep u pthe facade' he did for such a long time? I refuse to believe that our M and life was a sham, but I think the finances and OW caused him to crack and he couldn't hide the "habits".
It's still shocking sometimes to bear the brunt of just how nasty this man can be...this man who was so different and so many things for me for so long.
And come to think of it, he's the one who pushed me at the class before the baby comes, so I can look back and feel an accomplishment!
Guess I rambled, I think sometimes things hit me on the head when I type...does anyone else get that too?