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Sleepy312 posted 5/29/2013 13:42 PM

This is by no means all inclusive, but when I see the IC counselor tomorrow I'd like to throw out a list. If I seem unhinged feel free to reel me in.

I'm pissed..
he screwed around while I was prgnant with our second child.

Pissed the birth and everything surrounding it is muddied by his affair yet he doesn't call it an affair.

I'm pissed he blames me for being a bitch(well yes I was he made bad financial decisions that were leading us to bankruptcy) and I was trying to get us out of it and he lives in la la land.

I'm pissed he lied to me for seven years.

I'm pissed I didn't have the full truth seven years ago because my life would be very different now and likely without him in it, and I'd likely have the child I wanted and he decided he didn't want.

I'm pissed all of his wants and wishes are his.

I'm pissed he doesn't consider us in his decisions.

I'm pissed he just wants to move home to his family. Fuck my family they are all messed up according to him.

I'm pissed he put me in a position by moving us across the country making my business unsustainable even though I kept it up long enough to keep us afloat.

I really fucking hate him right now. Sorry for all the cursing. i'm just pissed off.

crazyblindsided posted 5/29/2013 13:54 PM

Let it out! I'm pissed off too lately and I thought I was over this anger.

Can I join in your rant?

I am pissed that my WH was/possibly still is capable of cruelty on me or anyone else

I am pissed that I see my WH differently now

I am pissed that I don't have much of a M anymore

I am pissed that I keep getting healthier and WH keeps complaining that his life is so bad/depressing

I am pissed my WH is a liar

Sometimes we need an "I am pissed..." Thread Thank You!

Sleepy312 posted 5/29/2013 16:23 PM

I'm all about being pissed off today. Go for it. I am pissed about a lot of things, and it's got H written all over it.

Oh, and let me add that Chase decided to cancel my debit card for possible fraudulent activity which there isn't any, and they did this at Christmas, too. It's a major pain in the ass, too, because I have so many auto drafts connected to it. So, again it will be 2 months of calls saying hey your card was declined from the places I don't remember to change.

They just did this with my H's debit, BUT the stupid florist in his hometown tried to charge $7,000 for the mother's day flowers he ordered for my rotten MIL.

[This message edited by Sleepy312 at 4:26 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]

Jada52 posted 5/29/2013 17:16 PM

You have every right to be pissed.

I am pissed over all the lies, pissed he cheated before he got out of this marriage, pissed he will not admit he was wrong, pissed he blames me for it all, pissed he can just toss 15 years away like it did not matter.

Yeah we are all pissed and we have every right to be I think.

mj052 posted 5/29/2013 17:42 PM

Yeah- I'm pissed off as well!!

Of course I'm the bi-atch of a wife who according to him had "the serpeant's tongue." Whatever! I'm sure if he had to share family responsibilities with the mow it wouldn't all be glitter and rainbows!!! I mean- there has to be a reason why her three marriages didn't work out!!!

Maybe if he texted me every morning with a "Hey beautiful! Just thinking about you!" Instead of wash my workout clothes!!! Our marriage could have been more romantic and he wouldn't have needed to find someone to "be lost with!" But I'm sure that she was never lost- just looking for the next fool to be husband #4!!!!

How dare I be angry!!! If he thought I was a bitch- he hasn't seen anything yet!!! His mow- always ended her texts with "love ya baby!" Personally- I wouldn't talk to my dog like that!!!

Sleepy312 posted 5/29/2013 18:04 PM

Let me add to my list of being pissed off. I can't even get his ass out of town on a sunny flipping day!

His flight is cancelled. He's rebooked, but that flight is delayed. Someone please move a mountain and get him out of town. Let him go home to his mother. Let me have a night of peace. I just want to not deal with him, watch the hockey game and drink a beer(which I'm not allowed to drink anymore because of him. The only reason I drank before was self medicating my anxiety which had become extreme, but he wouldn't allow me to take medicine for it.) I can't flipping win with him.

crazyblindsided posted 5/29/2013 18:09 PM

Of course I'm the bi-atch of a wife who according to him had "the serpeant's tongue."

My WH thought I was a beotch too before his A. He's eating those words now.

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 6:10 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]

momofone79 posted 5/29/2013 20:09 PM

I am all about being pissed lately! It feels much better than being sad, that's for sure.

I'm pissed that he is running away from his problems.

I'm extremely pissed that he wanted me to be "friends" with the OW (wtf? So messed up.)

I'm livid that he admitted to me that he's felt "unsatisfied" for years and thought having a baby together would change that. And yet NEVER told me any of this til now. Makes me feel like a used, blind idiot.

I'm pissed he's choosing his whore over his child.

I'm pissed that I gave 110% to our marriage and he couldn't be bothered to give much at all.

I'm pissed he made up his mind without me and won't give MC a real chance.

I'm pissed that ALL of my memories of the past 16 years are tied to him. Ugh.

Words can't really describe how much I'm hating him right now. But honestly, it feels so good to turn what would otherwise be despair and sadness into pure anger. Makes me feel much more in control of a situation that's completely out of my control.

Ashland13 posted 5/29/2013 20:24 PM

Ooh, this is good, I was going to post something like it!

I'm sorry for all of your anger-all of you-and all the awful things happening to us, much of it at the hands of other people.

I'm pissed because he is being such an ass about this visitation crap. He's making all these changes, going back on promises to DD and trying to make them up to her and use pretty language to disguise what's really happening. He's mad because I won't do that, so he apparently contacted his L and said some shitty crap about telling my L he needs to control me so I am more cooperative? WFT? This has me red in the face mad and that pit in the bottom of my belly is hot.

I've bent over backwards to be kind to this man, even after all I know, but I think...I think my heart just went completely black and he died for me today as a person. Before he was just a ghost/invisible handyman/someone in my phone, but this feels soooo hurtful.

I'm pissed that I gave time on mother's day away from DD so he could keep a promise and he treats me this way.

I'm pissed that I gave time on "my weekend" coming up so he could keep a promise to take her to an event. This is what I get in return?

I'm pissed that he feels free to interpret the rules instead of actually do them and then takes revenge on me for trying to do things right.

I'm pissed that we try to do the right thing in life and people who should care and matter the most treat others like hell.

I'm pissed that I was so stupid and earlier in life did not fight for higher education and the ability to financially support myself.

Yes, as sleepy says, I'm pissed.

I'm pissed that I'm pregnant and aching and witnessing DD's pain while he is off living his unemployed fantasy with OW who is probably supporting him physically and monetarily while we are very, very alone.

I am pissed that he actually said aloud he would want her to live with him and basically said to my face FU, even after all the other stuff he did. Acres of it.

I am pissed that he thinks someone like OW is a "better person" because she has such low standards and esteem.

I'm pissed that my immediate family and his knew about the A and OW but no one told me...and some even lied.

I'm pissed at so many, many things.

I'm pissed that my fate ended up this way and all I've done is everything I could "the right way" and "the high road".

I'm pissed there is such cruelty in the world.

I'm pissed that there are people who will fool around with married people and then help them break up their marriage.

I'm pissed that marriage is not taken more seriously.

I'm pissed for the emotional setback it feels like this caused me. It feels like just when I get going again, that man manages to shake me and take me down.

I guess I should end and go find something to punch.

Thank you for this ranting page, now I feel the tears that usually follow the anger spells. Maybe it will be out now and I can go on to the next thing.