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User Topic: my new beginning broke me.....aka I'm old
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ex husband cheated. Ex fiance cheated. Ex recent boyfriend cheated. Ugggggghhhh. On a garden tour this year, promised my dying friend I would do this for her, keep the club together ( am acting president) and feature her new wonderful yard and be on the tour myself. Soooooo, my back hurts, can't bend over. My right arm has a torn bicep and carpal tunnel acting up and add on the brachial neuropathy, and my right arm is useless. Can't support it's own weight. But..... the pool is crystal blue and awesome, the pond is cleaned out (lifting the large rocks that had fallen in damaged my arm the most), the koi look awesome, and I have planted dozens of annuals for color, got the vegetable garden in. Been weed-eating and mowing and blowing off the debris, power washing decks and siding above the brick...yeah, I am broken. But the yard looks awesome and I will rock the tour! By myself! Ok, with a little help from my daughter, her boy friend and my bestie's hubby....but dang, as bad as I hurt, I am all feeling like Nike, Goddess of war! To all of us old chicks left with a large house and yard to maintain, we can do it! And be awesome! I was paralyzed with fear when I realized I had to do this alone. But it is so happening! Go old chicks!


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like button here!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 817 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have some pretty rockin biceps too. Gardens are great for the soul and bad for the back.

Don't forget to rest, and actually SIT in the garden.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1237 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Working on mine... it's getting there. The bottle of tylenol is getting lower and lower.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5551 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am starting to love my house by fixing it up a little at a time.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 4:21 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet it looks beautiful. You should post pics.

Old chicks do rock.


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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CallMeRed1
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Such a positive thread! I'm so glad your garden looks good.


D-Day 19 July 2012
Me - BS - 42
Status: Divorced

Posts: 187 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: England
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is always ibuprofen to get rid of the aches and pains.

Post some pictures, please!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3475 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all, glad I'm not alone. Just doing the stuff and not quaking in fear being overwhelmed at the requirements is proof that I am healing (mentally anyway....lol) I will post pics as I figure out how. This site is so supportive, I knew you guys would understand! Thanks!!


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOVE this! I've been pissing and moaning about lawn maintenance (all by myself??--whine) and your success, hard work and determination encourages me. Thank you.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3236 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoohoo! You're tougher than I am. I have decided that lawn mowing in summer and snow removal in winter is as far as I am going to go. I used to have pretty extensive flower beds before infidelity destroyed my old life, but I just can't go back to it. Not to mention, can't really afford it.

Yep, YAY for old chicks, of which I am definitely one. My old chick accomplishment is that I waded through the whole process of hiring a reputable contractor to replace my roof and now I have a new, non-leaking roof and it was on budget. Such a relief and I was terrified about it.

Yay welcome 14 and all other old chicks!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5337 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is amazing what we can do when we are forced to, isn't it? The first few days that I was left alone by WXF I remember collapsing into a pile of leaves I was trying to get rid of and thinking I could never, ever take care of all of this myself. That was three and a half years ago. Now, this is my second time on the tour (the first was with him) and I am figuring it all out- from plumbing in the pond issues to replacing the sand filter head by myself. The interwebs are so awesome! Google anything or youtube it and there is a video or how to! When I physically recover I will be mentally empowered! I tilled and put in the garden and watered it last night, I don't need twenty tomato plants or four kinds of peppers or need to put up two gallons of salsa, but I will just because I know he drives by the house everyday and I want him to embrace the personal hell for him to see that my life went on exactly as it did before just without him. He still tries to hit on me fairly regularly....new wifey not as awesome as me maybe? Haha. Suck it up, buttercup. I am fine without you. Best revenge ever. And my biceps do rock...as a previous poster said. We will all be much stronger and better after we survive this trial by fire. Thank God for Deeply Scared and Mangled Heart and SI. My Heroes.


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
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