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homewrecked2011 posted 5/29/2013 22:51 PM

Before I call my atty, has this happened to anyone?

WH won't choose his vacation weeks.

Actually, he did choose some weeks now he says he doesn't know what weeks he wants.

AAARRGGGHHH. I told him he already chose and those are his weeks. If he doesn't pick up kids, do I have to hang around here for the weekend visitation or am I free to take his 2 weeks and get out of town with my sons?

ButterflyGirl posted 5/30/2013 14:52 PM

I've heard this complaint on here numerous times.

They just LOVE to stress you out so that you keep engaging.

If there's something written in stone, I would point to that and give him a deadline. I think most decrees do (or at least should) have some sort of deadline for notifying about this kind of thing..

If you don't have that, I think the best thing would be to contact your attorney and let him/her deal with him..

nowiknow23 posted 5/30/2013 14:55 PM

If he doesn't pick up kids, do I have to hang around here for the weekend visitation or am I free to take his 2 weeks and get out of town with my sons?
Unfortunately, no one here will be able to answer that question. It depends on how your agreement is written and what your state uses as guidelines if there's nothing in the agreement.

Your attorney is your best bet.

AppleBlossom posted 5/30/2013 18:50 PM

I am in Australia, and I had this happen to me all the time. I had to get a lawyer involved, and its funny how quickly he buckled down after that. Now we plan out the whole year in advance, and I take time off work based on that. We also put into the agreement that if either one of us has to work over shcool holidays, the other parent gets first refusal rights, and if they cant, then the parent who has them has to pay for child care. That is a good incentive to make sure you have organised time off work.

Good luck, I understand your frustration.

wannabenormal posted 5/30/2013 19:50 PM

I'm lucky in that I don't have a total dickbag dad for my kids so he DOES choose his weeks...BUT I think it was like the first summer he only picked one, so the other week WAS mine. Forfeit! Too bad, so sad.

homewrecked2011 posted 5/30/2013 19:58 PM

Thank you!

Catwoman posted 5/30/2013 20:04 PM

Idiot:

I need to know which 2 weeks you would like to take as your vacation weeks with the children by June 5. If I do not have dates from you by that time, I will assume you are taking date-month to date-month and you will need to arrange appropriate coverage if that is not suitable, since I will not be available.

The children look forward to spending some time with you.

Regards,

HW2011

homewrecked2011 posted 6/5/2013 21:32 PM

Thank you!

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