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Pass posted 5/30/2013 00:16 AM

In light of The Princess' possible multiple affairs, I thought I should get tested for STDs.

This really pissed me off. I mean, I didn't get any of the fun, but still may have been exposed.

So I came up with a plan.

I emailed her and said that I had been tested and had tested positive for something, but that I wasn't going to tell her what it was. She could just go ahead and get tested for "the entire suite" like I had to.

I made sure to add that she had best have them do a throat swab as well.

Then I waited. She came back negative for everything. Since I haven't screwed around, I expect I can assume I'm clean as well.

So I didn't have to get tested, but here is the best part: She has never acknowledged that there was anybody else. She confessed to the threesome that she almost had, but that I put a stop to when I discovered it the day before it was to happen, but swears that there was nothing else, and gets angry when I suggest otherwise.

So then why did she need to get tested?

I'm not even bothering to confront her with that bit of logic (logic not being her strong suit), but it brings me a great deal of satisfaction.

ProbableIceCream posted 5/30/2013 00:35 AM

> Why did she need to get tested?

Presumably because you had something and you used to be sexual partners?

Bluebird26 posted 5/30/2013 04:45 AM

Did you physically go to the doctors with her and sit in the room while the doctor told her she was 'clean' and saw the test results yourself? If you didn't I would be getting tested regardless, protect your own health.

Waywards have already proven they can't be trusted, why would you believe anything she tells you?

million pieces posted 5/30/2013 05:42 AM

Yeah, that was my thought. If you could lie about it, why not her.

Pass posted 5/30/2013 06:44 AM

Yikes! Didn't think about the fact that she was already a proven liar; now you have me worried. I'll go get tested today.

CallMeRed1 posted 5/30/2013 06:59 AM

Bluebird said EXACTLY what I was thinking. When my EXWH had his results through (by phone) we put it on speakerphone so we could both hear it together. That was one of my conditions.

debbysbaby posted 5/30/2013 07:40 AM

Well, she'd had sex with you. You told her you had something so she knew she was at risk.
The problem with this is that she now has cause to believe that you cheated.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/30/2013 07:55 AM

The problem with this is that she now has cause to believe that you cheated.

My thought too..

Please get tested. Praying you come back clean!!

roughroadahead posted 5/30/2013 08:00 AM

I agree. Get yourself tested regardless. First, she may be lying now, and secondly, even if she is clean now, would you know if she'd previously felt a little funky and been treated?

Amazonia posted 5/30/2013 09:02 AM

Yeah, just because she tested clean right now isn't proof you will test clean. Even if she's not lying.

Get tested. This is your health, it's not really something you want to take chances with.

Snapdragon posted 5/30/2013 09:15 AM

I had myself tested for HIV every six month for 18 months. Just because the first test was negative doesn't mean it wouldn't show up later.

Oh... stop playing games. Now she thinks you cheated on her, got something, and potentially passed it on to her. I don't see any good coming from this little scam.

suckstobeme posted 5/30/2013 09:24 AM

She's along the lines of a professional liar, so why believe anything she has to say, let alone regarding the subject of an std. I would bet my house that she didn't get tested.

I would also bet that you did not scare her with the story about you having something. If that really were the case, she knows you would have gone through the roof, called her every name in the book, and flipped the fuck out. She knows you're lying just to try to catch her.

While I know it's tempting, don't play games with her or buy into her juvenile crap. It doesn't help you detach or heal and doing stuff like this just to get in a dig or ruin her day helps her justify her shitty behavior. In a sick way, it brings her and OM closer. "See, I told you it was torture being M to someone like that."

Just get tested for your own sake. Depending on the results, then you can figure out how to deal with telling her.

I'm sorry. I'm not trying to swing a 2x4 but I just don't want you to lower yourself for her.

Fuck her.

solus sto posted 5/30/2013 10:12 AM

It's not safe to assume that, because she "tested clean" (for what, you do not know), you also would.

Doctors run different panels.

The BS can test positive before the WS.

You're right. It totally sucks that the BS bears any of this.

But the reality is that you need to be tested for STDs.

Do you really want to trust your health with a proven cheat and liar? Whose doctor might or might not test for the same things your doctor would? (And who might not have even BEEN tested at all?)

I'm sorry. But it's just not that hard to give a lab a vial of blood and a swab or two. You haven't won anything if you wind up learning you were infected down the road.

ETA: Read further, and I'm glad you're being tested

[This message edited by solus sto at 10:13 AM, May 30th (Thursday)]

LoveRising posted 5/30/2013 10:27 AM

So I came up with a plan.

I emailed her and said that I had been tested and had tested positive for something, but that I wasn't going to tell her what it was. She could just go ahead and get tested for "the entire suite" like I had to.

Really? You seem so proud of this...like you just "won" or got something over on her. You'd play with your own health this way? And feed into the drama she created in your relationship with a juvenile manipulation like this? I know that's a 2x4, but please take a look at this. You mention "logic" at the end of your post; there is no logic to the little "plan" you set up - it was all a lie. Just because we've been lied to does not mean we need to stoop to that behavior. It will only further damage us.

Get tested and be well!

[This message edited by LoveRising at 10:28 AM, May 30th (Thursday)]

h0peless posted 5/30/2013 10:36 AM

This sort of reminds me of one of my favorite Mitch Hedberg jokes, largely because of the overall absurdity of the scheme and the fact that you're trusting the word of a liar.

Anyhow, here is the joke.

I've had the AIDS test four times. And that shit is scary, doesn't matter what you've been doing. So I don't get the regular AIDS test anymore, I get the roundabout AIDS test. I call up my friend Brian and say "Brian, do you know anyone that has AIDS?" "No." "Cool, cause you know me."

[This message edited by h0peless at 10:37 AM, May 30th (Thursday)]

Pass posted 5/30/2013 13:45 PM

God damn, y'all. I felt pretty smart about this whole thing before you brought clear thought into it.

Yep, it was stupid and juvenile. I think I've mostly taken the high road to this point, so we'll think of that as my first stumble. Okay, it's probably not my first, but the first one I've had pointed out to me!

Anyhow, I went downtown to a clinic this morning, and the tests were really nothing to worry about. They took some blood and had me pee in a cup, then there was a very quick physical inspection.

The doctor who inspected me said I have a "lovely urethra".

Why thank you, ma'am! I wish I had a million dollars for every time I'd been told that.

FaithFool posted 5/30/2013 14:44 PM

The doctor who inspected me said I have a "lovely urethra"

You just can't make this shit up...

nowiknow23 posted 5/30/2013 14:57 PM

Anyhow, I went downtown to a clinic this morning
Good!

Skan posted 5/30/2013 16:09 PM

The doctor who inspected me said I have a "lovely urethra".

Thank you. Thank you very much. Now I have to clean bananna yogurt off of my keyboard. Sticky ......

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