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I have posted before about my DD14 and her struggles, and about the residential treatment program that accepted her. The time has finally come - she will be admitted tomorrow morning.

Although I am awash in conflicting emotions, in my heart I know this is what she needs. And what DS and I need, too. We need help and support to get DD the treatment, skills, and strategies to make her day-to-day life manageable, and for us to learn to support her.

DD is scared, anxious, a little excited, and more than a little angry. She's a hot mess, to be completely honest, and I don't blame her. This is a big terrifying leap away from her safe zone and into the unknown. And it's all out of her control. She will be living at the treatment center for as long as it takes to get her on track. It could be for the summer, it could be for a year. There's no way to know right now. Uncertainty is DD's kryptonite. This girl thrives on the concrete, the plan, the schedule - the known. In some ways, I feel like I'm pushing her off a cliff. A necessary cliff, but still.

If you are so inclined, please shine some SI comfort on DD. And if you have some to spare, DS and I could use a little as well.

(((NIK & DD & DS)))

You've been such a supportive rock for so many of us here, that I hope you can receive the same support back from us. We're all here and rooting for you. I'm sure it will be tough, but, as you said, necessary. I know it will go well! But tons of love and hugs, anyway!

Sending mojo and prayers.

You know you're doing the right thing for all concerned. Be the mama bird and give that gentle but firm push.

The right things are not necessarily the easy things to do. Wishing you all peace through this time of transition.

HUGS!

(((NIK & DD))) Sending loving and healing thoughts to you...stay strong.

Hugs to you all. I hope that she settles into a routine there and finds a new normal where she can thrive, and that she learns what she needs for when she eventually leaves the program.

(((NIKlet)))

(((NIK)))

I remember a few months ago you had a list of 4 or 5 things that needed to happen; this was a big one on that list. I'm glad things are moving forward, even if it's tough.

(((Nik, DD, DS)))

Sending mojo, prayers, and positive thoughts.

((((NIK and family))))

The best thing isn't always the easiest. But you're a wonderful mom and person. Keep focused on the end results.

(((HUGS))) to you and your family NIK. I can only imagine how difficult this will be for her and you, but as you said this is something she needs and will benefit from greatly.

You know we're all here for you and ready to listen and give you plenty of (((HUGS))) when you need them

You are doing your *mom* job, which is not always easy.

My hope is that all 3 of you come through this experience much stronger people.

{{{NIK and family}}}

Parenting is the hardest job you will ever have.

You have all my support, admiration and love... You're doing the right thing for HER and for your family.

Keep that in mind...

(((NIK, DD and DS)))

Sending both of you lots of courage and strength.

((NIK))

Sending it all your way.

AJ's MOM

(((nik))) hugs and mojo

Sending all of you hugs and mojo. Tomorrow is a scary day for you all but hopefully things are only getting better from here on out

((((NIK and family))))

((((Comfort)))))

MILLIONS of hugs to you.