So I'm divorced. It finalised on 11 February and the EXWH moved out (finally) on 15 March and god what a relief that was.
He lives in our other house (formerly rented out) in the same road. It is already driving me nuts because he obviously drives past my house whenever he goes anywhere and if my car isn't there he texts "are you at work today" or whatever.
I have maintained, and will continue to do so, the act that we are "amicable" for the sake of our children (my 17 year old stepdaughter and our children aged 10, 8 and 6).
As soon as he knew I wanted to D, instead of fighting for our M he got out there and banged his way around the South of England and even further afield. He has since said "Maybe I am a Sex Addict after all". Also during this time he kindly said that if I was "desperate" he would be willing to let me "have a go". Who the hell does he think he is??
(To illustrate the point my phone just beeped and there is a text: "you working from home today?". Tempted as I am to reply "go fxxk yourself" I simply replied "yes".)
With all of this. With his suspected SA, narcissism and total control freakery... why do I still feel sad?? He has a girlfriend now (not OW). He's already cheated on her more than once so of course I find myself feeling sorry for her as she has no clue whatsoever.
I feel sad that this POS can be in a 3 month "relationship" which began before our divorce was even completed. How can that be right? He cheats and now he is behaving like a single man who doesn't give a shit about the M he lost, the wife he lost etc.
I know for a fact that I'm not ready for a relationship as everyone I meet I wonder if they are "the same" or I take things they say out of context... I need time, and probably quite a lot of it.
I hope this long ramble makes sense to someone out there. I hope it isn't just me... in a way... not that I'd wish this rubbish feeling on anyone else but you know what I mean.
I hope you are all doing ok.