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User Topic: A little squee
cayc
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Happy  Posted: 8:07 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So remember how I posted back in April that I was pulling back to focus on me. That I was going to just focus on CrossFit, get myself some asocial needlework projects and was going to take down my OLD profile? Remember that?

Well, I did recommit to CrossFit (& my fave trainer returned which helped, I had unwittingly been missing his encouragement), and I started a Sunday lifting clinic at my house for my colleagues. I've held 3 sessions so far and everyone has really enjoyed them. And I bought a bunch of needlework projects, completing 2 small ones (a card for my mom for mother's day and a tea towel with a hummingbird design on it that now hangs on the handle of my stove).

And then, I logged in to take down my OLD profile and up pops this guy with a cute smile and interesting tattoos that lives close by. So I clicked on it. And weirdly, the profile now says he lives 1000s of miles away. But I read the profile anyway and he mentioned this funny little food preference that I have and it made me laugh so I sent him a quick note saying why I found his profile, too bad he wasn't close by, like the tats, I have this weird little food preference too so I hope you have a good day. Really, I was just thinking, hey, if it makes him smile then that's good, right?

Well he replied immediately. Turns out he was moving to my area. So we spent several weeks chatting via the OLD site, then moved to email, text, phone and then finally, I met him last weekend. And swoon. I'm smitten. This feels different than everything that has come before. And it isn't that I think he's perfect. But I do think he may very well be perfect for me. I briefly told him about my M, the D, and a legacy issue related to it and he just accepted me anyway. The whole mess of xWH became a non-issue, no longer part of my story, no longer something that defines me. And I realize it's true. It likely happened before I met this man, but being around him showed me it was true.

He has been so accepting of me. So respectful. So kind. So open. I could type pages about the conversations, the sharing, how good it feels to be around someone who only wants to get to know me. There's no other angle there. I'm not filling some slot that he has open.

We're seeing each other this weekend too. I was going to wait to post until after that, but honestly I just couldn't wait to share. You all have been so awesome to me & have helped me through so many dark days. So I wanted you all to know that I've got some sunny days too. I am positively giddy right now. And I've never felt this way about a man before. Not like this. This is all new, wonderfully strange, and very welcome. Thank god I met him now and not in the midst of my D when I was thinking I was ready to date, but wasn't. The timing for all of this could not be better. Is it tomorrow yet? I cannot wait to see this man again!


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3161 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for you!!! This is great news cayc! Thanks for sharing.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3475 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feels great, doesn't it. And when you least expect it. Good for you! Enjoy.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so awesome! I'm so happy for you and this gives me lots and LOTS of hope that I might find someone amazing in my future..... be it next week or next decade!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All that good news is only a *little* squee?

Congrats, it's awsome how sometimes, everything just falls into place.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All that good news is only a *little* squee?

Ok, it's true, it's a BIG squee


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3161 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go girl go!

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6001 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, it's true, it's a BIG squee

Yay!!! Can't wait to hear the update from this weekend! You deserve it lady - enjoy!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Spirit13
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

awesome cayc!


Men were deceivers ever; one foot in sea and one on shore, to one thing constant never.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big squee from me! So happy for you!


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3533 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so exciting! I'm happy for you. Hope you have a fantastic weekend. Looking forward to hearing the update!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4224 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
better4me
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very, very happy for you!! WOOHOO!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3236 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
stronggirl72
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so happy for you.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 155 | Registered: Oct 2012
bitchboots
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is amazing! Have fun this weekend and keep us posted!


Me: BS
DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary.
Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over

~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
"May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground"...FUN


Posts: 333 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Dallas
Luvlyla
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brilliant!

I so needed to hear some good New beginning stories So glad the summer weather seems to be bringing out the friskiness woop!


When he's your Romeo,
and you're not his Juliet,
it means you are Rosaline
- and you survive the play.

Posts: 202 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: UK
kernel
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful news! I hope it only gets better from here!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5337 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yay!!!


Uh....does he have a brother that is maybe 1000 miles away from you?


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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