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stronggirl72 posted 5/30/2013 12:50 PM

I've been finding it difficult these days to find some good in all of this. The daily stomach issues, headaches and general nervousness really seem to take over most of the time.

However, I have finally been able to identify a sliver of good in things -- something that gives me hope, and dare I say peace, for the first time in a very long time.

That good is this line from my Separation Agreement:

"Mother shall have primary physical custody of the children."

Yes, it's been there in that document sitting in my file cabinet since last October, but for some reason a lightbulb went off this week on just how wonderful it is and just how much calm it has provided me.

Anyway, even though I've weighed-in on a few other posts, this is the first time I've actually reached-out. I just felt like someone here would understand how I'm feeling.

Thanks for 'listening' to my rambling.

[This message edited by stronggirl72 at 3:07 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]

devistatedmom posted 5/30/2013 18:37 PM

I've been working on this with my DD too...no matter how bad or sad or mad something is making you...look for the "plus" in it. There is always something positive, even if you can't see it at the time.

I'm glad you found a silver lining in this. One of my silver lining is I've watched my kids grow closer through all this. I love how good my relationship is with my son. I'm working on my relationship with my daughter now. Knowing they love me, makes up for the lack of love he showed me.

nomistakeaboutit posted 5/30/2013 19:26 PM

You are exactly right.