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tesla posted 5/30/2013 18:44 PM

My first year back teaching from being a SAHM is officially over! And I'm so HAPPY!!!!!

What a fucking tough year...to go from having zero job prospects one year ago (and I mean zero...I put out at least 12 teaching applications, got calls for NIL) to getting my foot in the door as a teacher's aid to getting asked to replace a teacher that had been fired...and yeah, filling that post wasn't rife with political land mines.

But I did it. Figured out the job (not in my original licensed area), won over my colleagues (OMG, think I made two friends...huge for me), and decided I liked the job so much that I'm signed up to get a master's in it. I am financially independent and although I have some debt, it is manageable and will be paid off by the end of next school year.

Now, I get a summer to recoup, start my master's course work, work on some house projects...and oh yeah, I got this little Teslet that I get to spend the majority of the summer with.

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

Anywho...today is the start of a *very* long weekend for me!

I'm going to drink a couple of celebratory beers this evening...you should join me!

kernel posted 5/30/2013 18:53 PM

Here's to ya! I'm toasting with my 7up - already had a margarita after work with some pals and that's enough for me on a work night!

Have a TERRIFIC summer!

cayc posted 5/30/2013 18:59 PM

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

I hear you. I look back and it boggles my mind how miserable I was. And then stupidly thinking that R was the answer?? Lol. Being divorced from asshats is awesome. The crazy stops and life suddenly improves.

So glad the teaching has worked out for you this way.

phmh posted 5/30/2013 19:08 PM

Great update! I'm having a blonde ale tonight in your honor!

I completely relate -- the me from two years ago (pre D-Day) would not believe how fantastically happy the current me is. To say nothing of the me on D-Day or its aftermath, where I thought my life was over.

Here's to new beginnings!

h0peless posted 5/30/2013 20:11 PM

I've got a nice Imperial IPA I've been saving that I'll enjoy this evening. :) I'm glad things are going so well for you. It gives me hope.

tesla posted 5/30/2013 20:26 PM

Found a Belgian white ale that looked interesting at the grocery store.

oooh...an imperial IPA! Yum!

And when I got back from the grocery store, there were 3 texts from ex-shat explaining why I haven't seen my half of his tax refund and that he's voluntarily garnishing himself. Gee...isn't he just great?

My response: "And the arrears?"

His response: Crickets.
Uh-huh. Text me when the money is in the bank and on its way, asshole.

Now I'm also having a beer out of gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore.

persevere posted 5/30/2013 20:26 PM

Great post tesla! I just got home from a kettlebell workout, so I will toast you tonight with some hot detox tea. SO excited for you!!!

phmh posted 5/30/2013 20:28 PM

What kind of Belgian White? Those are among my favorites!

Mine was also a Belgian -- Grimbergen Blonde.

Yay for no longer being with idiots!

Williesmom posted 5/30/2013 20:32 PM

Great post. I'm 5 years out, and it keeps getting better.

The drama free life is awesome!

[This message edited by Williesmom at 8:32 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]

tesla posted 5/30/2013 20:38 PM

It's called a white hatter from new holland brewing. Citrusy and a nice finish of coriander. Perfect beer to end a muggy, warm day on...especially since I refuse to turn the air conditioning on yet!!
(I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity to run the air )

Lyonesse posted 5/30/2013 20:42 PM

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.

gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore

I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity

Pass posted 5/30/2013 21:42 PM

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was

I'm glad she has found hope, and found herself. She's a hell of a woman!

FaithFool posted 5/30/2013 21:48 PM

Nice California cabernet here.

You go girl!

NoTriangles posted 5/30/2013 22:21 PM

Cheers to you Tesla! You have come so far and have become so strong!!

You go, Girl!!

tesla posted 5/30/2013 22:24 PM

Thanks everyone!

Just got a baiting text from ex-shat. A year ago, I would have responded, tried to reason with him, be his conscience.

This year...yeah, not so much. A roll of my eyes paired with a FTG and I'm back to enjoying my beer.

It's amazing how time has a way of pulling back the curtain and revealing the man behind the fantasy.

HurtsButImOK posted 5/31/2013 04:22 AM

you are one of my heroes

beer, yuuuummmmm

So reassuring to see the amazing light to come at the end of this infidelity ridden tunnel. Love reading stuff like this.

Bebba1171 posted 5/31/2013 06:44 AM

So very happy for you Tesla.

You have gone through all kinds of crap and managed to navigate through it all.

You are just so exceptional in so many ways!

damncutekitty posted 5/31/2013 08:34 AM

Way to go!!!

heartbroken_kk posted 5/31/2013 10:26 AM

Yay for you Tesla!

May I suggest Stone Brewing Co's Arrogant Bastard Ale? It is one of my favorite beers. And the name just makes me all fuzzy inside. He's not worthy of you.

eta I only see it in 22oz bottles
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[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 10:29 AM, May 31st (Friday)]

fraeuken posted 5/31/2013 11:16 AM

Will be toasting to you as well while chilling with 3 of my favorite ladies tonight.

Rolling off a year as well considering we separated in May 2012. That was followed by him moving out in October 2012, filing for divorce in November 2012, a tedious mediation and our divorce being final on May 17, 2013, which would have been our 17th wedding anniversary.

You deserve to enjoy your summer and all the good that is coming your way!