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New Beginnings :
First year back is in the books

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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 12:44 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

My first year back teaching from being a SAHM is officially over! And I'm so HAPPY!!!!!

What a fucking tough year...to go from having zero job prospects one year ago (and I mean zero...I put out at least 12 teaching applications, got calls for NIL) to getting my foot in the door as a teacher's aid to getting asked to replace a teacher that had been fired...and yeah, filling that post wasn't rife with political land mines.

But I did it. Figured out the job (not in my original licensed area), won over my colleagues (OMG, think I made two friends...huge for me), and decided I liked the job so much that I'm signed up to get a master's in it. I am financially independent and although I have some debt, it is manageable and will be paid off by the end of next school year.

Now, I get a summer to recoup, start my master's course work, work on some house projects...and oh yeah, I got this little Teslet that I get to spend the majority of the summer with.

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

Anywho...today is the start of a *very* long weekend for me!

I'm going to drink a couple of celebratory beers this evening...you should join me!

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:53 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Here's to ya! I'm toasting with my 7up - already had a margarita after work with some pals and that's enough for me on a work night!

Have a TERRIFIC summer!

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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cayc ( member #21964) posted at 12:59 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

I hear you. I look back and it boggles my mind how miserable I was. And then stupidly thinking that R was the answer?? Lol. Being divorced from asshats is awesome. The crazy stops and life suddenly improves.

So glad the teaching has worked out for you this way.

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 1:08 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Great update! I'm having a blonde ale tonight in your honor!

I completely relate -- the me from two years ago (pre D-Day) would not believe how fantastically happy the current me is. To say nothing of the me on D-Day or its aftermath, where I thought my life was over.

Here's to new beginnings!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 2:11 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

I've got a nice Imperial IPA I've been saving that I'll enjoy this evening. :) I'm glad things are going so well for you. It gives me hope.

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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Found a Belgian white ale that looked interesting at the grocery store.

oooh...an imperial IPA! Yum!

And when I got back from the grocery store, there were 3 texts from ex-shat explaining why I haven't seen my half of his tax refund and that he's voluntarily garnishing himself. Gee...isn't he just great?

My response: "And the arrears?"

His response: Crickets.

Uh-huh. Text me when the money is in the bank and on its way, asshole.

Now I'm also having a beer out of gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Great post tesla! I just got home from a kettlebell workout, so I will toast you tonight with some hot detox tea. SO excited for you!!!

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:28 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

What kind of Belgian White? Those are among my favorites!

Mine was also a Belgian -- Grimbergen Blonde.

Yay for no longer being with idiots!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:32 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Great post. I'm 5 years out, and it keeps getting better.

The drama free life is awesome!

[This message edited by Williesmom at 8:32 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 2:38 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

It's called a white hatter from new holland brewing. Citrusy and a nice finish of coriander. Perfect beer to end a muggy, warm day on...especially since I refuse to turn the air conditioning on yet!!

(I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity to run the air )

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 2:42 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.

I'll toast to that!

gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore

And to that!

I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity

And definitely to that!!! (Where is the little tipsy emoticon?)

Me: BS, 40's.

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Pass ( member #38122) posted at 3:42 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was

I'm glad she has found hope, and found herself. She's a hell of a woman!

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:48 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Nice California cabernet here.

You go girl!

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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NoTriangles ( member #35985) posted at 4:21 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Cheers to you Tesla! You have come so far and have become so strong!!

You go, Girl!!

Me: Finding my SunlightHim: Traitor in my FoxholeLet go or get dragged.

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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 4:24 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Thanks everyone!

Just got a baiting text from ex-shat. A year ago, I would have responded, tried to reason with him, be his conscience.

This year...yeah, not so much. A roll of my eyes paired with a FTG and I'm back to enjoying my beer.

It's amazing how time has a way of pulling back the curtain and revealing the man behind the fantasy.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 10:22 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

you are one of my heroes

beer, yuuuummmmm

So reassuring to see the amazing light to come at the end of this infidelity ridden tunnel. Love reading stuff like this.

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

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Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 12:44 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

So very happy for you Tesla.

You have gone through all kinds of crap and managed to navigate through it all.

You are just so exceptional in so many ways!

Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 2:34 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Way to go!!!

12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.

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heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:26 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Yay for you Tesla!

May I suggest Stone Brewing Co's Arrogant Bastard Ale? It is one of my favorite beers. And the name just makes me all fuzzy inside. He's not worthy of you.

eta I only see it in 22oz bottles

u.

[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 10:29 AM, May 31st (Friday)]

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

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fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 5:16 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013

Will be toasting to you as well while chilling with 3 of my favorite ladies tonight.

Rolling off a year as well considering we separated in May 2012. That was followed by him moving out in October 2012, filing for divorce in November 2012, a tedious mediation and our divorce being final on May 17, 2013, which would have been our 17th wedding anniversary.

You deserve to enjoy your summer and all the good that is coming your way!

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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