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allfalldown posted 5/30/2013 21:33 PM

I absolutely fucking hate the name of the OW. I hear it everywhere...movies, tv shows, signs, etc. I want to do a roll call of OW names...but it is just a name and shared by thousands of other women. Will this hate go away?

roughroadahead posted 5/30/2013 21:41 PM

I hate the OW's name too. And it really was everywhere last year. Not only is it a name common in her generation, it is also an adjective. It was the name of a huge hurricane last year. Some may even say it was a superstorm. There was a terrible tragedy at an elementary school on the eastern side of the country, again with her name in it. I literally could not get away from it.

A year later, has it gone away? Some, but not really. It doesn't make me as angry as it used to, but i have a hard time using the word. I am working on detaching, and as that happens, that stupid whore's name stops mattering so much. She really is nothing.

SAR681 posted 5/30/2013 21:45 PM

I physically tense up when I hear her name. Her name is not allowed in my house. She's known as either "Psycho" or "The Whore" depending on whether the person that I am talking to is in the know or not.

Offhispedestal posted 5/30/2013 21:47 PM

The hate does calm down quite a bit.
But you will ALWAYS flinch just a bit when you hear it. I'm sure you feel like its everywhere. I feel the same way too. It seems every time I watch any episode of a crime series like Special Vitims Unit, 48 hrs etc....
At some point I hear " they were murdered April 12, 2000. Or we watch the Vampire Diaries and one of the Characters name is April.. I have to see it and hear for one entire month. I have to see it on the cover of my iPhone ...yes it sucks

LifeIsBroken posted 5/30/2013 21:48 PM

I never refer to 'her' by her name; I have too many friends by that same name and I do not NOT! want to associate 'her' with them.... so I'm happy to just refer to her as the bimbo although she's hardly attractive - or, maybe she is if you like a female with man hands & man feet and a horse face.

stilltrying2025 posted 5/30/2013 21:49 PM

Ha....mine is Marcia, Marcia, Marcia! Fucking Brady Bunch! I hear it all the time and I literally get sick to my stomach. I used to play a Brady Bunch slot game on Facebook but I won't any more because I would show clips of "Marcia, Marcia, Marcia"! Couldn't handle it. HUGE trigger for me. You are not alone by any means

Jrazz posted 5/30/2013 21:54 PM

I think my hate for the OW's name tapered pretty quickly because so many other people in my life who I care about have the same name.

FWH and I still have to go into explain mode if we refer to one of our same-name friends, but the bad feelings towards the name have definitely diminished.

BW2639 posted 5/30/2013 22:18 PM

I won't refer to him with his name; I usually just refer to him as " Rat Bastard"

JustForgave posted 5/30/2013 22:29 PM

I just call them c and m, because they aren't important enough to capitalize their names.

Linus1968 posted 5/30/2013 22:34 PM

I got lucky. Honest to God, the OM has the same first name as the man in those Direct Auto Insurance commercials. You know: Mr. Hightail (I will omit the first name to protect the OM's idenity). I see those commercial and laugh to myself...
Heck, who am I kidding. I tell everyone that is the name of my WW's BF.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 10:36 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]

ok4now posted 5/30/2013 22:52 PM

Mine shares the same name as my BFF.

h0peless posted 5/30/2013 23:21 PM

My ex's New Dad shares a last name with a major street in my city. I kin of had to get over the revulsion or I wouldn't have been able to go anywhere.

brokensunflower posted 5/30/2013 23:31 PM

yeah I hate the OW name too .. I just refer to her as homewrecking whore .. because that's just what she is ...

NoraLee posted 5/30/2013 23:32 PM

Her name used to be a trigger - very common name...

At our first MC session, mc asked, "what will we call the affair partner?"
"Whore" was just about to leave my lips when H just blurted out her name. I made a face and rolled my eyes, but didn't make a big deal out of it...so we had to use her name every week for awhile... And it doesn't bother me anymore. I'm glad I did - I work in a school with 2 lovely ladies with the same name.

knolls posted 5/30/2013 23:41 PM

Me too!!!

She shares a name with a cheese. And the other day I was quiche and added said cheese, made me want to barf.

I hate condoms too. I was at a store tonight and there they were taunting me right in my face

wontdefineme posted 5/30/2013 23:55 PM

I did too, but I used it to his face so she was the person in the room with us not just some hateful word. It will hurt for a while, but it helped me, especially when I told everyone who she was.

mysticmoons posted 5/31/2013 00:07 AM

Her name has never been used in our conversations, its always been Whore. Lucky for me I dont know anyone else by that name, it is my good friends dogs name though. So now when I go to my friends house and see the dog I just leave out the "Y" at the end of the name...it helps

Markay81 posted 5/31/2013 03:17 AM

For me its bar whore or gutter slut. My husband is many many names and at this moment none of them are nice.

Betrayed67 posted 5/31/2013 04:31 AM

I hate the woman's name with a passion. When WH and I talk about the A, I refer to her as the SLUT and FILTHY WHORE. He always look down and embarrassed when that whore's name comes up.

absolut posted 5/31/2013 04:36 AM

In my case her name is doubly annoying to me in that it's basically misspelled. You know how it's somewhat trendy now to give your kid a common name but spell it differently?
For example, Emilie instead of Emily or Jessyca instead of Jessica. Or Ashlee or something like that. So now I always give people with these sorts of names the side-eye.

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