This is the strangest phenomonon, because Perv will text when it's his visiting days, especially. Sometimes it's for hours, a few times has been an entire day and then poof! When the visitation is over, it's quite a few days of silence.
I work really hard at the NC even if it emotionally is suffering. I think texting is kind of like an addiction and also helps if someone thinks they are bored?
Yes, it's often mundane things or just about DD. If I can't get out of answering, I wait a long, long time and send very little.
It's a feeling like he doesn't want me to forget he exists or something, but doesn't want to actually be in my life itself.
And I find he is quick to cause pain, so always my guard is up and I think very carefully if I write anything back.
I agree on the NC being hard when they don't hear back, almost like a fear of getting our own life.
Sorry to generalize.
I'm trying to figure out how not to do that and also not always refer to my own situation.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.