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Douchebagfree posted 5/31/2013 19:41 PM

So I've done pretty well with the NC. I've ignored SO MUCH my friends are in awe yet he still texts me things that don't concern me at all.
First it was about his new job, he felt the need to share all of the details. Why he left, when he's starting and what company. I didn't respond.
Today I get more useless info about how someone ran over the electrical box I front of our house. He gave me all of the details. Pretty sure I could have figured it out myself when I got home, but thanks tips!
My neighbour came over and gave me all of the details. Not a big tragedy. It's not like someone drove the car through the house.
Again, I'm saying nothing. I'm just annoyed at all this useless info. I'm moving out in 2 weeks since the house sold
His girlfriend is delivering the miracle baby ( she told everyone she couldn't have kids because of a medical condition) in August so you'd think he'd have more important things to think about.

Will there be an end to all of this stupid texting?

nowiknow23 posted 5/31/2013 19:51 PM

Yes, but it will take a while. You're doing GREAT! Keep up the NC. And congrats on the sale of the home!

movingforward13 posted 5/31/2013 21:21 PM

He misses you.... There will be more texting after the baby honeymoon part is over. I am glad you are ignoring him. Trust me, ignoring does a lot of mental damage to them. People hate being ignored so you have all the power right now.

SBB posted 6/1/2013 00:14 AM

If you can I'd have someone vet the texts for you so you don't have to read them. I had someone doing this in the early days and it works a treat.

I don't need to know half of the crap he spouts.

Ashland13 posted 6/1/2013 16:32 PM

This is the strangest phenomonon, because Perv will text when it's his visiting days, especially. Sometimes it's for hours, a few times has been an entire day and then poof! When the visitation is over, it's quite a few days of silence.

I work really hard at the NC even if it emotionally is suffering. I think texting is kind of like an addiction and also helps if someone thinks they are bored?

Yes, it's often mundane things or just about DD. If I can't get out of answering, I wait a long, long time and send very little.

It's a feeling like he doesn't want me to forget he exists or something, but doesn't want to actually be in my life itself.

And I find he is quick to cause pain, so always my guard is up and I think very carefully if I write anything back.

I agree on the NC being hard when they don't hear back, almost like a fear of getting our own life.

Sorry to generalize.

I'm trying to figure out how not to do that and also not always refer to my own situation.

Douchebagfree posted 6/1/2013 17:34 PM

It's a feeling like he doesn't want me to forget he exists or something, but doesn't want to actually be in my life itself.

Never thought about this before but now that you mentioned it, there might be some truth to this.
So very twisted!