This is the strangest phenomonon, because Perv will text when it's his visiting days, especially. Sometimes it's for hours, a few times has been an entire day and then poof! When the visitation is over, it's quite a few days of silence.
I work really hard at the NC even if it emotionally is suffering. I think texting is kind of like an addiction and also helps if someone thinks they are bored?
Yes, it's often mundane things or just about DD. If I can't get out of answering, I wait a long, long time and send very little.
It's a feeling like he doesn't want me to forget he exists or something, but doesn't want to actually be in my life itself.
And I find he is quick to cause pain, so always my guard is up and I think very carefully if I write anything back.
I agree on the NC being hard when they don't hear back, almost like a fear of getting our own life.
Sorry to generalize.
I'm trying to figure out how not to do that and also not always refer to my own situation.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
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