DD and I have this happening too. STBXH is trying to interpret or modify the visitation schedule to fit his own plans and is causing some real problems. He's dictating the time as it suits him and being such an a.. when I need have the nerve to need something or it's DD's schedule.
I've complained to L an Perv's L actually sent a letter telling my L to "control your client over the visits." ????
So I too, document it all and don't delete.
It's additional pain when done to DD. Promises are starting to be broken and she's trying to tell me "it's okay". Those were her words today and I cried for a long time after I heard them.
I don't think it'll be long before the KISA falls off its horse again, no matter what he buys her?
Yes, I'm in the same shoes as Nature Girl and can't afford to pay anyone, nor is anyone around to ask, for the most part. I don't do much right now that she can't be part of anyway, but it's the way he won't let us make any patterns and keep them anymore and the lies and broken promises.
We have this happen with my mother, who is flashy, buys her stuff, takes her places and then doesn't show up for a long time in her life. She will break plans or they just don't materialize, so I did the same thing as JessicaFLA, kind of and didn't tell DD anything I didn't have to.
Now other people are telling her plans and breaking them -Perv and her grandma-and Do you know, DD actually said to me recently: "Mom, you're the only one who doesn't break promises to me!"
So Nature Girl, I'm really sorry it's happening to you also. Some people I know who are going through this "with us" wonder if is on purpose...like when STBXH arrives very, very late or tries not to give a time to collect DD, there is a theory that it's so we are boxed in.
FWIW, I stopped trying to communicate with Perv directly because he just has fits at me and I document it and "submit" it to L.
He said if nothing else, it could be a character thing.
I'm sorry it's happening to everyone.
I do have to wonder to myself if and when it will happen to OW and the tribe there (and for others of you).
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.