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Topic: Family vent
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purplejacket4
♀ 34262
Member # 34262 |  Posted: 12:05 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 |     |
So I'm visiting my sister's family several hours from home. We are celebrating my BIL and both nieces birthdays. My sister invited my dad and step mom (her mother). I wasn't even going to tell them I was coming because they drive me nuts.
So at dinner tonight my dad says "how can you work with all those Muslims and Pakistani doctors? Any one of them could be Taliban!" I. Kid. You. Not. How am I related to this man? I'm a lesbian deist and he's talking to me about Taliban conspiracies. I don't know if I should be offended or watch for signs of dementia.
AND I had to borrow my 14 year old nephew's soap and shampoo. I smell like AXE. It's nauseating and oh so wrong.
Me: BS 47
Her: FWS 50 (both family med MDs; together 20 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Posts: 2999 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here |
SisterMilkshake
♀ 30024
Member # 30024 | | Posted: 12:14 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
I smell like AXE. It's nauseating and oh so wrong.  I am so sorry, but that just made me laugh. I have to sons who went through an Axe addiction. Thankfully, they are over it now.
I am sorry that your dad is.........clueless? (((purplejacket4)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 13036 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 5:25 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
I don't know what's worse, the Axe or your dad's remarks  .
Seriously, I can't tolerate shit like those comments.
My FIL used to use the Yiddish derogatory word for African Americans in front of my kids. I asked him to stop and he asked me what he should call 'them'. I said, how about that guy or woman, instead of identifying him or her by race. He totally couldn't relate to that concept. 
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54995 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239 | | Posted: 7:43 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
I feel your pain (but luckily, I don't smell it )
I'm going to visit my family on Sunday. My brother hasn't spoken to me since election night...he is such an ass. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Posts: 25170 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona |
jrc1963
♀ 26531
Member # 26531 | | Posted: 7:47 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
(((PJ)))
I'm sorry... My granparents used to be like your dad... It was hard to listen to.
Sorry about the AXE too... that must be awful.
Me: BSO - 48
Him: FWSO - 71
DS - 15
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 25936 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida |
purplejacket4
♀ 34262
Member # 34262 | | Posted: 9:17 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
Now he just told my ten year old niece if she didn't "honor her father and mother" she'll die young like his sister. She died at 53 from a stroke . WTF is wrong with him?!?!?
Me: BS 47
Her: FWS 50 (both family med MDs; together 20 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Posts: 2999 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here |
UndecidedinMA
♀ 33732
Member # 33732 | | Posted: 11:51 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
I would start telling him wrong dates, times & places for future family functions.
Seriously & hopefully others in your family see the trouble too, and shield younger members from him. We had an elderly relative in dementia start acting that way, but even with that reason it was tough to take.
ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R
Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA |
purplejacket4
♀ 34262
Member # 34262 | | Posted: 11:00 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013 | |
Last vent. When we got back from the baseball game and he was leaving he said "remember niece of purple, honor your father and mother."
Niece chimed back: "and always have a man in the house!"
WTF is that supposed to mean. Way to encourage independence and self worth in a child. I kid you not hat this is NOT the man who raised me. Grrrr!!!!
Me: BS 47
Her: FWS 50 (both family med MDs; together 20 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Posts: 2999 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here |
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