"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

purplejacket4 posted 6/1/2013 00:05 AM

So I'm visiting my sister's family several hours from home. We are celebrating my BIL and both nieces birthdays. My sister invited my dad and step mom (her mother). I wasn't even going to tell them I was coming because they drive me nuts.

So at dinner tonight my dad says "how can you work with all those Muslims and Pakistani doctors? Any one of them could be Taliban!" I. Kid. You. Not. How am I related to this man? I'm a lesbian deist and he's talking to me about Taliban conspiracies. I don't know if I should be offended or watch for signs of dementia.

AND I had to borrow my 14 year old nephew's soap and shampoo. I smell like AXE. It's nauseating and oh so wrong.

SisterMilkshake posted 6/1/2013 00:14 AM

I smell like AXE. It's nauseating and oh so wrong.

I am so sorry, but that just made me laugh. I have to sons who went through an Axe addiction. Thankfully, they are over it now.

I am sorry that your dad is.........clueless? (((purplejacket4)))

authenticnow posted 6/1/2013 05:25 AM

I don't know what's worse, the Axe or your dad's remarks .

Seriously, I can't tolerate shit like those comments.

My FIL used to use the Yiddish derogatory word for African Americans in front of my kids. I asked him to stop and he asked me what he should call 'them'. I said, how about that guy or woman, instead of identifying him or her by race. He totally couldn't relate to that concept.

Sad in AZ posted 6/1/2013 07:43 AM

I feel your pain (but luckily, I don't smell it )

I'm going to visit my family on Sunday. My brother hasn't spoken to me since election night...he is such an ass.

jrc1963 posted 6/1/2013 07:47 AM

(((PJ)))

I'm sorry... My granparents used to be like your dad... It was hard to listen to.

Sorry about the AXE too... that must be awful.

purplejacket4 posted 6/1/2013 09:17 AM

Now he just told my ten year old niece if she didn't "honor her father and mother" she'll die young like his sister. She died at 53 from a stroke . WTF is wrong with him?!?!?

UndecidedinMA posted 6/1/2013 11:51 AM

I would start telling him wrong dates, times & places for future family functions.

Seriously & hopefully others in your family see the trouble too, and shield younger members from him. We had an elderly relative in dementia start acting that way, but even with that reason it was tough to take.

purplejacket4 posted 6/1/2013 23:00 PM

Last vent. When we got back from the baseball game and he was leaving he said "remember niece of purple, honor your father and mother."

Niece chimed back: "and always have a man in the house!"

WTF is that supposed to mean. Way to encourage independence and self worth in a child. I kid you not hat this is NOT the man who raised me. Grrrr!!!!