"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"
We'll all get there eventually, I bet.
I hope that's ok ...
I think it's far too close to final D to have any concern about this. Enjoy the time enjoying you.
I've dated on and off since DDay, just ended an 8 month relationship, and now I think I am finally ready to just focus on ME and my kids and who I want to be. So, in a sense, I'm in awe that you've started out that way.
I think you'll know when you're ready.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
I talked with my IC about this...lack of need for a boyfriend. She said it can be perfectly normal. I know I have very high walls up, only one guy made it through and it didn't work. She said I am very healed, I just don't want to deal with the trouble of a relationship.
I have so much on my plate that many days the thought of a relationship makes me squirm. My IC said that when the right person comes along, and it is EASY, then I will want it. I guess I just don't want something that requires too much effort on my part.
I think it is well within the normal range of behavior post S/D. She also told me many women don't date again until the children are out of the house.
Not wanting to date has nothing to do with not being healed.