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I feel like I am healed ... like that was a chapter in my life that is now closed ... it's over and done.
But yet I have NO intention on dating... not even an interest.
Maybe I've come to enjoy the independence ... just my kids and I ... Maybe I am too controlling and want things "my" way (which by being single I get)
It seems like everyone feels like you "need" someone in your life ... I just can't see that.
Maybe when my kids are grown I'll feel differently ??? but for now I have absolutely no interest.
I hope that's ok ...

I agree. I have a slight urge to date now (and a mini-crush on a friend ) but I am loving my family the way it is and I don't know if I want to change anything.

I can totally relate to this. I'm enjoying not having to answer to another person at the moment. 3 young children are keeping me busy enough.

We'll all get there eventually, I bet.

I hope that's ok ...

I think it's great. As long as you and your kids are doing well and moving forward then all is well fh10.

I think it's far too close to final D to have any concern about this. Enjoy the time enjoying you.

I've dated on and off since DDay, just ended an 8 month relationship, and now I think I am finally ready to just focus on ME and my kids and who I want to be. So, in a sense, I'm in awe that you've started out that way.

I think you'll know when you're ready.

You and me both, sister.

We are the same age, and I'm in a very similar spot.

I talked with my IC about this...lack of need for a boyfriend. She said it can be perfectly normal. I know I have very high walls up, only one guy made it through and it didn't work. She said I am very healed, I just don't want to deal with the trouble of a relationship.

I have so much on my plate that many days the thought of a relationship makes me squirm. My IC said that when the right person comes along, and it is EASY, then I will want it. I guess I just don't want something that requires too much effort on my part.

I think it is well within the normal range of behavior post S/D. She also told me many women don't date again until the children are out of the house.

Not wanting to date has nothing to do with not being healed.

I think if it works for you, then it's more than ok. I am not dating. I figure if I'm destined to be with someone then it will happen when the time is right.