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Shockleader (original poster member #36827) posted at 4:13 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
So many forms, questionnaires, etc have the bullseye with these choices, and I'm curious how/when/why you folks answer, even if there is no benefit/detriment by your answer?
I'm guessing some of it is situational, perhaps some legal at very specific instances... Thanks, and single works for me.
D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 53
Xcheater... Who cares.
One DD 25
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
roughroadahead ( member #36060) posted at 4:22 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
If "separated" is an option, I choose that. If I was D, I would choose that. If there's no "separated", I'm stuck with "married", because I am still technically M until D is final. Not single, though, because on forms where they give divorced as an option, single is "never married".
Edit: that didn't need a target 
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BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 4:34 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
If there is no legal reason, I put single. It just makes me happier :)
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:35 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
I believe in honesty and accuracy. If there is a choice that includes single and divorced, I would choose divorced. I was married; I am now divorced. Single, to me, indicates you were never married. I have nothing to hide.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 5:12 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
I'm with SiA. I have no problems checking the divorced box. But I do check the "Ms." box now, instead of the "Mrs." It just seems weird to be called Mrs Lastname now, since I kept my married name but I'm not married to ex anymore. 
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Happydays ( member #38681) posted at 7:43 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
I choose "Divorce".
I hate it when the other options appear: did you pay alimony?
How much CS?
BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 9:57 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
I put "separated", as the divorce is not final.
And I put "Ms", though I loathe it.
I feel too old for "Miss" and don't like that, either!
People are starting to refer to me as "Ms" or just my name and it's surreal. Sometimes I don't reply because I don't know it's me!
Yes, single is a good one and very new, too!
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
I have always put divorced. I have been contemplating starting to put single - probably because I am finally thinking about dating. When I was cringing at the very thought of dating, "divorced" seemed like a layer of protection. Weird how my mind works, I know.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 2:49 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
On legal forms, I put divorced. On anything else, I'm single.
Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:49 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
I'm still married (dammit), so that's what I check. Unless Separated is an option, then I check that. When the time comes I don't think I'll have any issues checking Divorced. After all, that's the truth, and considering how hard I've worked to accomplish that status, and how much money it's cost to attain it, last thing I'll do is deny it!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:23 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
I check divorced. I opt for Ms. although some of my kids friends still call me Mrs. lastname. good thing XH's NW wasn't around.. she does not like that we have the same name. 
Oh well, sucks to not be the original.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:03 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
Oh well, sucks to not be the original.
I made my lawyer spit his coffee with this one: "Everybody knows sequels are nowhere near as awesome as the original!".
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 11:41 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
I choose separated for now if that's an option. If not, then I pick divorced. I'm still not actually divorced, but "stuck in separation/divorce limbo" isn't a choice!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 12:46 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
During the divorce I was either seperated or married because I was not single or divorced yet. I put myself as single except for legal documents. Then I am divorced.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 2:03 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
We were common law so I put single sometimes since I was never married.
I guess I fall into the perpetually separated category.
It occurred to me that I don't have that final piece of paper to show that it's over. It keeps me in limbo a bit.
Anyone else have this problem?
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
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