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Shockleader posted 6/1/2013 10:13 AM

So many forms, questionnaires, etc have the bullseye with these choices, and I'm curious how/when/why you folks answer, even if there is no benefit/detriment by your answer?

I'm guessing some of it is situational, perhaps some legal at very specific instances... Thanks, and single works for me.

roughroadahead posted 6/1/2013 10:22 AM

If "separated" is an option, I choose that. If I was D, I would choose that. If there's no "separated", I'm stuck with "married", because I am still technically M until D is final. Not single, though, because on forms where they give divorced as an option, single is "never married".

Edit: that didn't need a target

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 10:28 AM, June 1st (Saturday)]

phmh posted 6/1/2013 10:34 AM

If there is no legal reason, I put single. It just makes me happier :)

Sad in AZ posted 6/1/2013 10:35 AM

I believe in honesty and accuracy. If there is a choice that includes single and divorced, I would choose divorced. I was married; I am now divorced. Single, to me, indicates you were never married. I have nothing to hide.

inconnu posted 6/1/2013 11:12 AM

I'm with SiA. I have no problems checking the divorced box. But I do check the "Ms." box now, instead of the "Mrs." It just seems weird to be called Mrs Lastname now, since I kept my married name but I'm not married to ex anymore.

Happydays posted 6/1/2013 13:43 PM

I choose "Divorce".
I hate it when the other options appear: did you pay alimony?
How much CS?

Ashland13 posted 6/1/2013 15:57 PM

I put "separated", as the divorce is not final.

And I put "Ms", though I loathe it.

I feel too old for "Miss" and don't like that, either!

People are starting to refer to me as "Ms" or just my name and it's surreal. Sometimes I don't reply because I don't know it's me!

Yes, single is a good one and very new, too!

kernel posted 6/1/2013 20:19 PM

I have always put divorced. I have been contemplating starting to put single - probably because I am finally thinking about dating. When I was cringing at the very thought of dating, "divorced" seemed like a layer of protection. Weird how my mind works, I know.

Griefstricken25 posted 6/1/2013 20:49 PM

On legal forms, I put divorced. On anything else, I'm single.

Nature_Girl posted 6/1/2013 21:49 PM

I'm still married (dammit), so that's what I check. Unless Separated is an option, then I check that. When the time comes I don't think I'll have any issues checking Divorced. After all, that's the truth, and considering how hard I've worked to accomplish that status, and how much money it's cost to attain it, last thing I'll do is deny it!

Kajem posted 6/1/2013 22:23 PM

I check divorced. I opt for Ms. although some of my kids friends still call me Mrs. lastname. good thing XH's NW wasn't around.. she does not like that we have the same name. Oh well, sucks to not be the original.



SBB posted 6/2/2013 08:03 AM

Oh well, sucks to not be the original.

I made my lawyer spit his coffee with this one: "Everybody knows sequels are nowhere near as awesome as the original!".

tryingagain74 posted 6/2/2013 17:41 PM

I choose separated for now if that's an option. If not, then I pick divorced. I'm still not actually divorced, but "stuck in separation/divorce limbo" isn't a choice!

peridot posted 6/2/2013 18:46 PM

During the divorce I was either seperated or married because I was not single or divorced yet. I put myself as single except for legal documents. Then I am divorced.

Lola2kids posted 6/3/2013 08:03 AM

We were common law so I put single sometimes since I was never married.

I guess I fall into the perpetually separated category.

It occurred to me that I don't have that final piece of paper to show that it's over. It keeps me in limbo a bit.

Anyone else have this problem?

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