Another excuse right out of the cheater handbook, "You focused more on the kids than me."
It's a balancing act for sure, but it's supposed to be teamwork, with both people focused on being parents and spouses. Obviously a lot of HIS focus wasn't where it should have been, so don't you take that blameshifting bullcrap for one second..
I can't stand this selfish, "What about me, me, me??" crap. If he was the husband and father he was supposed to be, he woulda been helping you out and giving you time to focus on yourself and not just the kids and him all the time. What a selfish POS..
(By the way, that's my favorite name for my STBX. He's a totally selfish POS.)
Big hugs to you girl. He's gonna continue throwing anything he can in your face and blame you for everything, so try your best to ignore him. I wouldn't even bother trying to defend or explain yourself at this point. You know the truth, and I'm sure he does too, so you must know by now that he's just trying to manipulate and emotionally abuse you..
I must admit that some of the things POS accuses me of could have some truth to them, but I'm not going to admit them to him. We all have things we wish we would have handled differently. So perhaps there are things I would like to change about myself, and I won't be afraid to work on those. None of us are perfect, we could all be better in some areas, but the people you surround yourself with should be supportive, not pointing fingers and using those shortcomings against us to excuse their deplorable behavior..