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nutmegkitty posted 6/2/2013 08:01 AM

Yep, the douchebag married the OW sometime this past week in Hawaii.
I am relieved that now his kibble supply will be coming from someone else.
BUT, the whole trip was funded by the proceeds of my 401K - you see, the QDRO settlement went through a couple weeks ago and he got a chunk of my $$, which I am sure he promptly cashed out. Ouch, this stings!!!!

And, I do not even know if he told the girls beforehand that they were getting married. On Thursday night he texted a bunch of pics to my dds, and I happened to glance at dd2's phone. I saw the standard "hands with wedding rings" pic, and threw up in my mouth a little bit.

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after. Oh, have I mentioned he's in AA now? And hounding everyone who he thinks has a drinking problem to get themselves into AA? He has already pissed off royally one brother with this new line of behavior. Batshit crazy I tell you.

gotta go, kiddos coming into room...

[This message edited by nutmegkitty at 8:02 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)]

SBB posted 6/2/2013 08:09 AM

I hope she bleeds the fucker dry. I hope all of the OW do. It would be the decent thing to do IMO.

Here's wishing them a marriage as good as my own was.

If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you.

imagoodwitch posted 6/2/2013 08:14 AM

I wish them all the happiness they deserve

If they cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

tesla posted 6/2/2013 08:17 AM

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after.

Something tells me they will be.

And ring pics to the kids?
Tacky.
Stupid fucking morons.

So he's in AA, huh? When does that step come where he has to tell all the people he's wronged that he's sorry? That should be interesting.

Williesmom posted 6/2/2013 10:39 AM

((NMK))

That blows.

ruinedandbroken posted 6/2/2013 10:46 AM

Bat shit crazy is right. Karma will bite their asses in the end. Just wait.

Take2 posted 6/2/2013 11:01 AM

(((nutmegkitty)))

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after.

^^couldn't have said it better myself!

dmari posted 6/2/2013 11:03 AM


He may physically be going to AA but I doubt he is working the program.
What a loser ... thank goodness he is not your problem.

[This message edited by dmari at 11:04 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)]

debbysbaby posted 6/2/2013 12:40 PM

And


So he's in AA, huh? When does that step come where he has to tell all the people he's wronged that he's sorry? That should be interesting.

I agree. ...poopsmear would skip that step.

FaithFool posted 6/2/2013 12:41 PM

Wow, what a clueless fuck.

nowiknow23 posted 6/2/2013 13:08 PM

((((nutmeg & kids))))

scotslass posted 6/2/2013 14:26 PM

((((NMk)))


He is now someone else's problem. Ain't that the truth!!!

Snapdragon posted 6/2/2013 14:39 PM

Wow... How very financially responsible.

I am also wishing them all the happiness they deserve.

As for being in AA and getting preachy.... what an ass.

nutmegkitty posted 6/2/2013 15:48 PM

yeah, I'm not holding my breath waiting for an AA inspired apology. I know very well he's only playing the AA game because that's what OW thinks will save him - and he's pretty stuck in his mess so he has no choice. I know he will fall off the wagon sooner or later. If you remember, he was arrested on DV charges (he pushed or slapped her), adn I fully believe it was over booze.

He's on such a bad path. Since most of his family won't talk to him, he's befriended his brother's 30 something son. This kid was a hard core coke addict for a long time. Spent a while in rehab, was doing ok, and now he's off the wagon. SU-fucking-PER! Just who I want my girls around when they are at their dad's.

Meh. I am nearly to indifferent. I am focused on ME now. And I kinda like it.

Holly-Isis posted 6/2/2013 16:43 PM

I'm sorry. It's truly incredible- as in not credible that a human would make those choices, such as funding his wedding to a HW with his XBW's money.

As for AA- the amends can't happen until he takes a "fearless moral inventory". I hope he has a sponsor that will hold his feet to the fire on that. From the sound sof it though he's talking the talk but not walking the walk.

tryingagain74 posted 6/2/2013 17:37 PM

Wow. What a colossally irresponsible thing to do yet also very predictable. It's important for the unremorseless to pull out all the stops in order to justify their love: "See! We didn't go skulking off to the justice of the peace and get married quietly like we were embarrassed! Our love is REAL and RIGHT, so we're going to do it in the most romantic and showy way possible!"

My older brother had a tiny wedding for his first wedding. His wedding to the Owife was a pretentious, ostentatious affair (pun intended). I won't be the least bit surprised to hear that STBX ends up having some obnoxious wedding (not sure who would come, though) instead of the front yard, mudpit wedding I thought he was going to have.

It's just like the story of the grasshopper and the ant. You'll take care of business like the ant, stockpiling for the winter while the grasshopper plays his fiddle and lives for the moment, and then when winter hits, you'll be warm and snug and well-prepared, and he'll be freezing in the cold, hoping that someone will rescue him.

Isn't it nice that you're no longer married to that child? I hope that the OW enjoys the ugly winter ahead!

FieldsOfLavender posted 6/2/2013 18:14 PM

If they cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

I hope this is true on many levels. I hope it's worse than the feeling of salt being pored on an open wound.

persevere posted 6/2/2013 19:43 PM

I also wish the new Mr & Mrs all the happiness they deserve.

I'm sorry nmk, I remember the sting, yes, definitely batshit crazy.... And I am SO happy he is no longer your problem.

((nutmegkitty))

Nature_Girl posted 6/2/2013 20:13 PM

That's a dick move. Jerk.

wontdefineme posted 6/2/2013 20:52 PM

Tax implications next year.

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