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Ideas for former wedding dress?

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 Helen of Troy (original poster member #26419) posted at 7:08 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

20+ years ago cost me $800. It's been sealed. I want to do something with it this month anti-versary that is theraputic for me to mark the occaision, my benefit. Giving it to kids not an option I want to consider.

Ideas?

Donate?

Shred?

Thanks in advance, I'm so not a creative person.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:09 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Bonfire...

fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

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 Helen of Troy (original poster member #26419) posted at 7:12 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Excellent, Phoenix I even have a bonfire pit.

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ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 8:37 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Hmm, I hadn't thought about this yet.. Maybe I'll go with cutting it up into rags and cleaning the toilets and THEN put it in the fire pit..

xBW~ 40
Two DS~ 15 and 11

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CallMeRed1 ( member #36870) posted at 9:31 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I'd sell it (if possible) and buy something you really want with the money. Like a weekend away or something.

Mine is still in my attic, not sure what I'm going to do with it yet, for some reason I don't want to get rid of it just yet...

D-Day mid 2012
I was the BS
Status: Divorced early 2013

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 9:32 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

http://myexwifesweddingdress.com/

A suggestion!

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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numbandnauseous ( member #34525) posted at 9:33 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Thanks for the link, Rebreather!

BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

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gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 9:40 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I trashed it and burned some wedding stuff. I did give the wedding photo album to FT when I was throwing crap in a box for him.

Thought he needed a reminder of what he threw away. There were pictures with our friends, family, kids, and late Moms. I have no idea if he looked at it.

Gma

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 9:42 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I stuffed mine into a Salvation Army bin.

Me - happy!
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 9:48 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I wore my Mother's dress. It's in my garage, sealed up in a box. I can't bring myself to get rid of or destroy HER dress. My parents have been married 56 years as of next Saturday. Surely hat outweighs any potential tarnish from my marriage.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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hoya96 ( member #28851) posted at 11:36 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I donated mine to brides against breast cancer (http://www.bridesabc.org/).

Me: 43 and fabulous!
3 children ages 13, 15 and 17
Ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man.

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Pippy ( member #16482) posted at 4:49 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

I've seen ideas like making fancy pillows to decorate your bed, or christening gowns for your grandchildren, but I just said 'nah' and burned it. It was a relief not to have to store it and drag it with me when I moved. Glad it's gone. It was too out of style to donate BTW.

I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.


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sunshine226 ( member #38851) posted at 12:18 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

a friend of mine used hers as a Halloween costume, teared it up a bit and put fake blood all over it, her theme was "killer bride". She found it very refreshing to pretend to be a wife who killed her wh and ow, if only for a night

Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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Mack9512 ( member #38619) posted at 12:33 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

The disaster relief organizations for Hurricane Sandy and the Oklahoma tornadoes would LOVE to get a wedding dress.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

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Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:34 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

Burn it.

Donate it.

If you google trash the dress images, you may get some other ideas.

Give it to a child care centre for dress ups?

Recycle it.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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GreenMom ( member #36385) posted at 2:59 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

I donated mine. Just wanted it out of the house quickly.

DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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 Helen of Troy (original poster member #26419) posted at 5:01 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

FYI

http://www.bridesabc.org/

At this time, we are in need of contemporary gown styles, slips and veils dating from 2009 until the present day.

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Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 6:35 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

My first thought was put a match to it...... Voila burn baby burn.

Then I thought donate or sell depending on your financial situation.

You are the better person , but that doesn't mean we don't each have those thoughts.

Take the high road . Always

BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013

friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:34 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2013

I sold mine at a garage sale.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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