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But I put a stop to it before he continued his verbal barrage. Wow. He has absolutely no loving feelings for me. He won't unless I let him have his way and pay attention to his needs only. Makes me wonder how he'd be with the kids if I wasn't around. What is going to happen when they can't provide the attention he needs...what if all 3 are extra needy an entire weekend he has them? This is going to suck.

Welcome to Hell, sister. There's quite a few of us here who fear for our little ones as they spend time with their emotionally-abusive parents without us there to protect them.

^^ ditto

Double post, but deserves another

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 7:49 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)]

I really need NC with him and obviously complete no contact is impossible. He actually just needs to leave. I need to move on without him and his abusive ways. Even though I'm ready for that. I'm not ready yet to do it to the kids. The oldest will be devastated. If she does a complete 180 from her normal self and ends up needing intense therapy, I wouldn't be surprised.

My girls had two sub-standard parents during the M. In S/D I'm far more present and all round better parent than I was back then. He on the other hand is worse.

They only need one good parent.

((TCD)) I deeply regret having children with him. He is undeserving of that precious gift - TBH he always was.