My husband and I have been attending MC at the local university; our counselor is a graduate student who is overseen by a fully licensed clinician. During our last session, our counselor mentioned that her supervisor recommended reading the book After the Affair. She was quick to say that she had not yet read the book herself, but would like to read it along with us.
I looked it up on Amazon and noticed several 1 star reviews mentioning that the author essentially blames both spouses for the affair and expects the BS to assume responsibility/blame for the affair along with the WS. Is this the case with this particular book? Would you personally recommend it or not?
I own my share of the problems in our marriage, but I will not take responsibility for my husband's decision to have an affair, and I have no interest in reading a book whose author encourages me to accept blame. I am looking for something that will help both of us understand the other's unique position... So is this book it, or are there better options out there?
I'm new on SI, so I apologize if this topic has already been discussed. Thanks in advance for your help!