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cayc (original poster member #21964) posted at 3:52 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
I had my second 3-day date with OLD guy, who now needs a new name b/c he's going to be around for awhile and SO doesn't quite impart the significance of this person in my life.
It's just getting better. Once again, I spent every second with him from the moment he arrived Friday evening until he had to leave Sunday afternoon. The time flew by and not once did I want away. If anything, parting sends me into withdrawal symptoms! We went out to dinner Saturday night, got to the restaurant about 8 and literally sat there enjoying each other's company until 1 am. We didn't realize how much time had passed and it wasn't until we noticed that they were cleaning up and we were the only ones left, that um, maybe some time had passed lol.
There's quite a bit of serendipity in our timing. As in, if I had met him earlier than now ... I wouldn't have been ready for the depth of intimacy that's being offered me, so I feel blessed that this is happening now.
And it's funny, all this talking. Some of it is sharing stories from our past. Some of it is sharing our hopes/dreams. Much of it is "no wait you? omg, me too!" ha ha.
But dating as an "older" person is different. You can't be all rose colored glasses the future's gotta wear shades. And I don't mean emotional baggage, although I guess that's a factor too. But things like, he wants kids (& is willing to adopt thank goodness) and I both want that and am afraid of it. He's got lingering injuries left over from his military service that means looming major surgery that's risky. There's me and my job that I'm unwilling to leave that means committing to me = living outside the US for most of the time. These aren't deal breakers, just real life issues. But we can't naively pretend they aren't there. There's no clean slate like when you're dating in your 20s.
But I am well and truly falling for this guy. And we're in an exclusive relationship now. And I love it. And yes, I got off the bus 
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 4:16 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Wow....off the bus, now that is some exciting news!
I am happy for you. 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:59 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:23 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 12:57 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
dlmos ( member #36839) posted at 1:16 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced
She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 1:22 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 1:33 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Yay!! I am very happy for you.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:52 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
How about Tattoo Guy?
It sounds like you've made a connection, cayc, and I'm very happy that you have.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit concerned about the whirlwind factor here and how quickly this has become so significant. I know you will keep your wits about you and your eyes wide open. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 3:00 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
cayc (original poster member #21964) posted at 8:54 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Ah NIK, yes the whirlwind factor. I am keeping that in mind. Not as a way to avoid/protect myself from all these feelings, but I am aware of tempering my interpretation of what these feelings mean. That's kind of what I meant in regards to the "real life issues". I'm not walking into this thinking love will surmount all, but rather caring means it all *has* to be talked about, no dodging or pretending it's not there. And funnily enough, he and I are talking about that too.
That's what I think is getting me. The ease, the talking, the acceptance ... we both talk in terms of we're really enjoying getting to know each other so let's date exclusively so that we can continue to get to know one another.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 12:20 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 12:23 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:41 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 12:43 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
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