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cayc
♀ 21964
Member # 21964 |  Posted: 9:52 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013 |     |
I had my second 3-day date with OLD guy, who now needs a new name b/c he's going to be around for awhile and SO doesn't quite impart the significance of this person in my life.
It's just getting better. Once again, I spent every second with him from the moment he arrived Friday evening until he had to leave Sunday afternoon. The time flew by and not once did I want away. If anything, parting sends me into withdrawal symptoms! We went out to dinner Saturday night, got to the restaurant about 8 and literally sat there enjoying each other's company until 1 am. We didn't realize how much time had passed and it wasn't until we noticed that they were cleaning up and we were the only ones left, that um, maybe some time had passed lol.
There's quite a bit of serendipity in our timing. As in, if I had met him earlier than now ... I wouldn't have been ready for the depth of intimacy that's being offered me, so I feel blessed that this is happening now.
And it's funny, all this talking. Some of it is sharing stories from our past. Some of it is sharing our hopes/dreams. Much of it is "no wait you? omg, me too!" ha ha.
But dating as an "older" person is different. You can't be all rose colored glasses the future's gotta wear shades. And I don't mean emotional baggage, although I guess that's a factor too. But things like, he wants kids (& is willing to adopt thank goodness) and I both want that and am afraid of it. He's got lingering injuries left over from his military service that means looming major surgery that's risky. There's me and my job that I'm unwilling to leave that means committing to me = living outside the US for most of the time. These aren't deal breakers, just real life issues. But we can't naively pretend they aren't there. There's no clean slate like when you're dating in your 20s.
But I am well and truly falling for this guy. And we're in an exclusive relationship now. And I love it. And yes, I got off the bus  
"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott
Posts: 3293 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico |
Chrysalis123
♀ 27148
Member # 27148 | | Posted: 10:16 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013 | |
Wow....off the bus, now that is some exciting news!
I am happy for you. 
Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.
Posts: 3022 | Registered: Jan 2010 |
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810 | | Posted: 5:59 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14056 | Registered: Jul 2011 |
Bluebird26
♀ 36445
Member # 36445 | | Posted: 6:23 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
Yay!
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Posts: 1453 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia |
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697 | | Posted: 6:57 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4956 | Registered: Jan 2012 |
dlmos
♂ 36839
Member # 36839 | | Posted: 7:16 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced
Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas |
She11ybeanz
♀ 27457
Member # 27457 | | Posted: 7:22 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Posts: 2749 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia |
gahurts
♂ 33699
Member # 33699 | | Posted: 7:33 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
Yay!! I am very happy for you.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Posts: 3669 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 8:52 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
How about Tattoo Guy?
It sounds like you've made a connection, cayc, and I'm very happy that you have.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit concerned about the whirlwind factor here and how quickly this has become so significant. I know you will keep your wits about you and your eyes wide open. 
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28391 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
Member # 34823 | | Posted: 9:00 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 8438 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest |
SoHappyNow
♀ 8923
Member # 8923 | | Posted: 9:04 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
Good for you!!
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus
***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14
Posts: 2326 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA |
cayc
♀ 21964
Member # 21964 | | Posted: 2:54 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
Ah NIK, yes the whirlwind factor. I am keeping that in mind. Not as a way to avoid/protect myself from all these feelings, but I am aware of tempering my interpretation of what these feelings mean. That's kind of what I meant in regards to the "real life issues". I'm not walking into this thinking love will surmount all, but rather caring means it all *has* to be talked about, no dodging or pretending it's not there. And funnily enough, he and I are talking about that too.
That's what I think is getting me. The ease, the talking, the acceptance ... we both talk in terms of we're really enjoying getting to know each other so let's date exclusively so that we can continue to get to know one another.
"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott
Posts: 3293 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico |
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341 | | Posted: 6:20 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
happy for you cayc!!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced
Posts: 3269 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa |
Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870 | | Posted: 6:23 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7995 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 6:41 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28391 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
fraeuken
♀ 30742
Member # 30742 | | Posted: 6:43 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013 | |
Happy for you! Enjoy.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Posts: 1273 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California |
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