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cayc posted 6/2/2013 21:52 PM

I had my second 3-day date with OLD guy, who now needs a new name b/c he's going to be around for awhile and SO doesn't quite impart the significance of this person in my life.

It's just getting better. Once again, I spent every second with him from the moment he arrived Friday evening until he had to leave Sunday afternoon. The time flew by and not once did I want away. If anything, parting sends me into withdrawal symptoms! We went out to dinner Saturday night, got to the restaurant about 8 and literally sat there enjoying each other's company until 1 am. We didn't realize how much time had passed and it wasn't until we noticed that they were cleaning up and we were the only ones left, that um, maybe some time had passed lol.

There's quite a bit of serendipity in our timing. As in, if I had met him earlier than now ... I wouldn't have been ready for the depth of intimacy that's being offered me, so I feel blessed that this is happening now.

And it's funny, all this talking. Some of it is sharing stories from our past. Some of it is sharing our hopes/dreams. Much of it is "no wait you? omg, me too!" ha ha.

But dating as an "older" person is different. You can't be all rose colored glasses the future's gotta wear shades. And I don't mean emotional baggage, although I guess that's a factor too. But things like, he wants kids (& is willing to adopt thank goodness) and I both want that and am afraid of it. He's got lingering injuries left over from his military service that means looming major surgery that's risky. There's me and my job that I'm unwilling to leave that means committing to me = living outside the US for most of the time. These aren't deal breakers, just real life issues. But we can't naively pretend they aren't there. There's no clean slate like when you're dating in your 20s.

But I am well and truly falling for this guy. And we're in an exclusive relationship now. And I love it. And yes, I got off the bus

Chrysalis123 posted 6/2/2013 22:16 PM

Wow....off the bus, now that is some exciting news!

I am happy for you.

Amazonia posted 6/3/2013 05:59 AM

Bluebird26 posted 6/3/2013 06:23 AM

Yay!

tesla posted 6/3/2013 06:57 AM

dlmos posted 6/3/2013 07:16 AM

She11ybeanz posted 6/3/2013 07:22 AM

gahurts posted 6/3/2013 07:33 AM

Yay!! I am very happy for you.

nowiknow23 posted 6/3/2013 08:52 AM

How about Tattoo Guy?

It sounds like you've made a connection, cayc, and I'm very happy that you have.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit concerned about the whirlwind factor here and how quickly this has become so significant. I know you will keep your wits about you and your eyes wide open.

gonnabe2016 posted 6/3/2013 09:00 AM

SoHappyNow posted 6/3/2013 09:04 AM

Good for you!!

cayc posted 6/3/2013 14:54 PM

Ah NIK, yes the whirlwind factor. I am keeping that in mind. Not as a way to avoid/protect myself from all these feelings, but I am aware of tempering my interpretation of what these feelings mean. That's kind of what I meant in regards to the "real life issues". I'm not walking into this thinking love will surmount all, but rather caring means it all *has* to be talked about, no dodging or pretending it's not there. And funnily enough, he and I are talking about that too.

That's what I think is getting me. The ease, the talking, the acceptance ... we both talk in terms of we're really enjoying getting to know each other so let's date exclusively so that we can continue to get to know one another.

better4me posted 6/3/2013 18:20 PM

happy for you cayc!!

Williesmom posted 6/3/2013 18:23 PM

nowiknow23 posted 6/3/2013 18:41 PM

fraeuken posted 6/3/2013 18:43 PM

Happy for you! Enjoy.

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