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User Topic: Squee update
cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my second 3-day date with OLD guy, who now needs a new name b/c he's going to be around for awhile and SO doesn't quite impart the significance of this person in my life.

It's just getting better. Once again, I spent every second with him from the moment he arrived Friday evening until he had to leave Sunday afternoon. The time flew by and not once did I want away. If anything, parting sends me into withdrawal symptoms! We went out to dinner Saturday night, got to the restaurant about 8 and literally sat there enjoying each other's company until 1 am. We didn't realize how much time had passed and it wasn't until we noticed that they were cleaning up and we were the only ones left, that um, maybe some time had passed lol.

There's quite a bit of serendipity in our timing. As in, if I had met him earlier than now ... I wouldn't have been ready for the depth of intimacy that's being offered me, so I feel blessed that this is happening now.

And it's funny, all this talking. Some of it is sharing stories from our past. Some of it is sharing our hopes/dreams. Much of it is "no wait you? omg, me too!" ha ha.

But dating as an "older" person is different. You can't be all rose colored glasses the future's gotta wear shades. And I don't mean emotional baggage, although I guess that's a factor too. But things like, he wants kids (& is willing to adopt thank goodness) and I both want that and am afraid of it. He's got lingering injuries left over from his military service that means looming major surgery that's risky. There's me and my job that I'm unwilling to leave that means committing to me = living outside the US for most of the time. These aren't deal breakers, just real life issues. But we can't naively pretend they aren't there. There's no clean slate like when you're dating in your 20s.

But I am well and truly falling for this guy. And we're in an exclusive relationship now. And I love it. And yes, I got off the bus


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow....off the bus, now that is some exciting news!

I am happy for you.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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dlmos
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!! I am very happy for you.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about Tattoo Guy?

It sounds like you've made a connection, cayc, and I'm very happy that you have.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit concerned about the whirlwind factor here and how quickly this has become so significant. I know you will keep your wits about you and your eyes wide open.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
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cayc
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah NIK, yes the whirlwind factor. I am keeping that in mind. Not as a way to avoid/protect myself from all these feelings, but I am aware of tempering my interpretation of what these feelings mean. That's kind of what I meant in regards to the "real life issues". I'm not walking into this thinking love will surmount all, but rather caring means it all *has* to be talked about, no dodging or pretending it's not there. And funnily enough, he and I are talking about that too.

That's what I think is getting me. The ease, the talking, the acceptance ... we both talk in terms of we're really enjoying getting to know each other so let's date exclusively so that we can continue to get to know one another.


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

happy for you cayc!!


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy for you! Enjoy.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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