I read something in one of the self-help books that talked about dropping some food on the floor; if it was hard candy, you'd dust it off and still consider it good. If it was something like a piece of fried fish, you'd call it spoiled and chuck it.
Sometimes, after someone betrays you and your trust, and lies to you, and cheats on you, and makes you feel completely worthless, they become a spoiled piece of fish to you - no matter what good they do after that, they'll never be able to redeem themselves to you because they've done too much bad.
I still don't know if my husband is spoiled to me or not yet. I'm having a hard time reconciling the man he was that I read about in all the emails and PMs between him and numerous women, or if he's the guy who regrets everything, wants to make it all right now, and is doing everything he can to fix things.