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imaf posted 6/3/2013 00:44 AM

Hello all SI´ers,
Haven't been on here in a while. Moving on slowly.
It just happens that I am going to visit my exWSO country of origin due to work. Since then he has remarried OW. I did get on well with his my ex-inlaws but have kept out of the way due to respect (yes, the respect exWSO an OW never had, but hey!). As I am going to be in the same country and city as the ex-in laws, would love to pop round and just say hi. I did this once before, little after we broke up, because it happened that I was in the country and everything went well.
It has been three years since. I have been total no contact with exWSO, through my choice, practically since split up.
What do you think? I just think it would be a shame that I am in the same place and not pop round just to say hi. But funny enough don't want to tread on OW feet. I think they should just be happy ever after. But I still just want to say hi as it happens that I am in the same country.

What do you think? Good or bad idea?

Sue1964 posted 6/3/2013 00:52 AM

I certwinly don't why because when all this kicked off ow n h flew to UK from oz and stayed with my inlaws.son or not his behaviour to his children never one me a disgrace and ow was causing so much hurt back in oz.
Because they knew their grandchildren hurting in my mind no way would hey have taken ow into thieir home.not other ex about me as no love lost with them.
All they say as long as Steve is happy its ok.

stronger08 posted 6/3/2013 01:25 AM

I keep in touch with a couple of them on a fairly regular basis. My XWW made that easy as she liked to lie to her siblings as well as me. A few of them were fed up with her lies and don't speak to her any longer. Its not like I'm all up in their lives. But we are cordial towards each other. The rest pretty much closed ranks around her and chose to believe her bullshit. I do not keep contact with them.

thebighurt posted 6/3/2013 01:51 AM

I see no reason to be in contact with the majority of them. One who was abused by her XWH still speaks to me, but the rest closed ranks, as stronger08 said, so why bother.

Xpos went from seeing them once a week for breakfast with me to taking the slut with him the next week and they were fine with it. No love lost and no time wasted on them. A couple of them told me that I will always be part of their family ( after over 40 years) and they will always love me, but I have not heard a thing from them since the slut started coming around with him. Nor have I contacted them.

If you really want to try to see them, is there someone who can let them know you are there and let it be their choice to contact you or not? Might prevent them hurting you if they react badly to your direct contact.

(((Imaf))) I hope it goes well for you. Remember that it's true that blood is thicker.........