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User Topic: why bother with sorry???
♀ 36164
Member # 36164
Default  Posted: 4:44 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't understand why some people (my WH in particular) even bothers with saying he's "sorry"! I don't believe those words from his mouth for 1 sec, and I'm not just talking about the A. This had always been a sore spot for me, I feel he only apologizes because he knows he's suppose to, NOT because he is truly sorry!!! And especially about his A! He shows no sign of remorse, or even trying to show remorse! He gets mad when I trigger, he says stupid things, and if I bring up that he should be sorry, then he'll say I'm sorry.

I just don't get it, if your not sorry but you say you are, it's just another lie to add to the shit pile of lies, so why do it?

Sorry just had to vent a little before falling (or trying to) sleep

BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 715 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
♀ 25341
Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, it really does suck to get those insincere 'apologies'.

Here's how my WH apologized: 'I'm sorry you feel hurt'. WTF?????

Way to take RESPONSIBILITY for YOUR actions asshole!!!!

Me (BS), Him (WH): mid-50's
3 DS: 21, 20, 17
M: 26 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 31
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen

Posts: 3768 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
♀ 36445
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 5:21 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry is about actions not words. Why don't they all get it? Because they are selfish and it means they have to face what they have done. It's easier to keep living in lala land.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

Posts: 1528 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
♀ 36267
Member # 36267
Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could not hear the word sorry often enough. I need more affirming words from WH (I guess its one of my love languages).

I would prefer an "I'm sorry" to his daily question of "What's wrong?".

You know dammed well what is wrong, doucheface.

Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 665 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
♀ 36714
Member # 36714
Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mouthing a few small words you don't even mean = side effects of wretched behavior substantially reduced or even eliminated.

Why *wouldn't* he bother with "sorry"?


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