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User Topic: One Day At A Time
1Faith
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you’re in a difficult season in your marriage and you start to think, “How can I take another 10 or 20 or, God forbid, 30 years of this?” you’re headed for trouble.

You’re asking God to give you the grace for something that hasn’t happened.

Instead, break it down to a single unit — a single day: “Just focus on this: Can I love my husband/wife for this day?” Don’t think about ten years down the road, or even ten months! Can you love your spouse for this one day?

Some friends who knew I was running the Seattle Marathon asked me, “How did you do that for twenty-six miles?” My answer? “One mile at a time.” How do you stay married for twenty-six years? One day at a time.

Break it down. Focus on the here and now. Put the future in God’s hands. Some miles will seem easy, and some will feel hard, but you need to focus only on the ones you’re currently running. Let the others remain in His care.

Can you love your spouse for this one day?

~Gary Thomas


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you love your spouse for this one day?

I get the concept. I really do. THIS is how I tolerated 3 years worth of neglect from my WH though.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
1Faith
♀ 38975
Member # 38975
Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are times that the answer becomes no I can't love him today...

Hang in there and take care of YOU. Sorry he is still hurting you.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1289 | Registered: Apr 2013
Uneek
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, i needed that reminder. I've been struggling with "how will I know he's telling the truth this time?" and my answer is, take it a day at a time. If the day comes that I know he isn't telling the truth, then we go from there. One day at a time...I can do that!

Posts: 114 | Registered: Feb 2013
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..sounds familiar, like the old.. 'how do you eat an elephant? .. one bite at a time!'

..similar to 'how do we eat this giant shit sandwich?' same theory.. one bite at a time!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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