I’m trying to restrain myself because I KNOW when we get posts like yours we old-timers are SO CLEAR on what’s your best option… And I know it’s not what you want to hear or came here to get.
But the clincher is that this is the same escort he cheated on his former partner with…
Why do you think he will stop?
What makes you think he will change?
What is he doing differently now?
Three years is a long time, but compared to the pain you are getting yourself into…
Seriously think of why you want to remain with this man. Seriously look into what he’s doing other than promising it’s over.
I wanted to add...don't hit him again(I know it felt good). You can not trust this man..he has been cheating and lying to you. If he gets angry with you because you're sad or mad over what he has done,he can go to the police and have you arrested for hitting him...don't give him that power. And,please,don't say "he would never do that!" Because,right now,he has just proven you don't know who he is or what he is capable of.
[This message edited by confused615 at 12:56 PM, June 3rd (Monday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
And with gentleness, you need to call your doctor and have a complete STD/HIV panel run. On you and on him. You need to NOT be sexually intimate with him until both of your initial panels have come back negative, and be sure to schedule your follow-up test for HIV. I know that sounds horrifying, but when he slept with her, he slept with every person she's ever slept with, and that includes those in jail. So for your own health and live's sake, you have to assume that one or more infections are possible and go get tested. Close your ears to "but I used a condom every time!" because it's a lie. And even if perchance they did use a condom for actual penetration, that doesn't cover oral sex. I'm so sorry to have to bring this up to you.
D-Day, June 10, 2012