Just went to my retirement plan to get out some money. I have been unemployed since Dday#1 with WH#2 and I have not asked him for a dime, now or ever before. Also my poor health is the reason I am/have not been working. Luckily I had money saved up and it lasted for a long time, but now I am forced to dip into my retirement plan to pay my bills until I can go back to work.
Anyway, called my retirement account people and my account has a hold on it and has had for the last 10yrs. I had no idea XWH#1 put a hold on my retirement money during the divorce or that he could even do that. I of course refused to give him any of my retirement and it states that in the final divorce papers. It just pisses me off after all this time he is still fu#$ing with me. Now I have another WH#2 that refuses to even help me, except to pay his half of the bills. I feel like a roomate that does all the domestic chores around the house-cooking, cleaning, laundry while he comes home and sits on his ass every night, except mows the grass once every 2 weeks. I have bought all the neccessities-food, house products, personal products, and such for the last year and he gripes when he has to pay when we go out to eat once in a blue moon. The bill is usually so high because he has to get drunk while he eats, then he has the nerve to look at me and say he has to quit being so generous. What the hell is wrong with these WS's that they feel so entitled to act like this. He doesn't pay me as a cook, dry cleaner, maid, or grocery shopper. I don't pay him to mow the grass either but it takes an hour every couple of weeks, which I can certainly do myself if I have to, but I refuse to now. The things I do for him are daily chores, 7days a week, hours everyday and he wants to act like I owe him something.