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crushedsoul27 posted 6/3/2013 20:55 PM

I've made it longer with not talking to my spouse than any other time during the last 4 months but, it is killing me not talking to him AT ALL!! I'm working on the 180 trying to move myself forward! He hasn't tried to contact me other than a text on Friday morning 5/31 (that I ingnored) I went out of town for the weekend that he didn't know about(b/c we are separated and been in my own apt for 1 mo), I keep anticipating and wanting him to care enough to contact me on his own. I did say to him Thursday night I needed some time with out communication and he asked how long and I said i don't know. If he really loved me or cared about being together wouldn't he be checking on me?? I broke down several times today but, I am determined not to iniate contact with him. ughhh...I hate this!!

Me = BS 43
Him = WS 46
1 DD child 23
Together 27 years
D-Day: Feb. 10, 2013
Separated living on my own since 5/3/13(first time EVER in my life)

isadora posted 6/3/2013 21:03 PM

stay strong.

Shockedman posted 6/3/2013 21:55 PM

It is really hard. Stay strong. He will realize what he is losing and fight for you. If not, you are already doing the 180 an making your life better and moving int he right direction.

MC_Jack posted 6/3/2013 22:07 PM

I am not a fan of the dynamic u have set up. You told him not to contact you, but are now indulging in magical thinking, I.e. If he really cared he qeould ignore my request.

At the same time, I understand the need for you to detach.

Not sure what you should do to change things...

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