Protect yourself and your daughter. G for alimony and child support, and create your daughter's college fund yourself with his money. Ow and her spawn can get in line.
I agree with Williesmom.
In my case, X is a total self-absorbed jackass. EVERYtime I've been nice to him, he has been totally ungrateful. In our divorce decree, I had them add that X didn't have to pay child support for the first three months after D was final because I felt sorry for him because he was trying to buy a car. Totally ungrateful. Although our D decree states that he is supposed to pay 1/2 of any extra-curricular activities, I haven't asked for a dime; however, he has asked me to help pay when anything that is his idea (theme park season passes, summer camp, guitar lessons).
When I told him I couldn't help out on these things, I got the meanest messages complaining about all the $ he was spending on CS and insurance for DD. I just told him to have his attorney contact my attorney if he didn't like it.
Your X may not be an ass like mine, but my advice is to get what you and your child are entitled to. He created this horrible situation. Make sure he is held responsible for his obligations.