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 veelop5 (original poster member #11089) posted at 4:39 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

So I met a nice guy at the beach 3 hours away from home...he's been texting and calling and wants to meet up again ( nothing happened) is is so sweet and hot!!! He is older and has children.. He was a gentleman and was very honest about the fact that our distance wouldn't prob work...so do I bother with the continuous calls that I enjoy or do I stick to reality that we prob won't see each other again? So bummed he seems so nice...my walls are up:(

ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 8:49 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

When I first started OLD I had this one guy from interstate send me a cheeky funny message and I replied in kind. He lived a thirteen hour drive away we knew we could never have a relationship, we never even spoke on the phone.

But over Christmas and New Year we had so much fun for a few weeks texting, sending emails and photos nothing ever crude it was all good clean flirting and some deep and meaningful conversations about life. When it became too deep we said our very friendly goodbyes, I'll never forget that guy he made my New Year wonderful so I say go for it but just keep it in it's place .

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

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gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 11:44 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

3 hours is not that far away. It is a workable distance as long as your schedules allow you to get together either alternating between each others areas or meeting in the middle. GF and I are 3 hours apart. We see each other on the Saturdays when we don't have our kids and whoever is driving heads out early in the morning, we spend the day together and then head home by 10 or 12 or so depending on whenever we need to be back.

Don't automatically shut down the chance to get close if things are looking good just because of a 3hour difference.

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

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 veelop5 (original poster member #11089) posted at 1:26 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

I really do want to see him again...but I feel like my emotions of wanting to see him make me feel uncomfortable...I am afraid of rejection...or liking him too much and than BOOM...I will probably be single forever with this attitude right???

ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 2:27 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

Take it day by day... You see deserve this *hugs*

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 6:41 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013

3 hours isn't very far at all, unless neither one of you drive or something.

I say if you are enjoying the calls and texts then...just enjoy them! lol

And if things go really well a 3 hr difference won't mean a thing.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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 veelop5 (original poster member #11089) posted at 7:49 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013

It has been going really good...he texts and calls me!!...He said today that even if we never see eachother we will be texting and calling eachother for the rest of our lives because I make him feel good...awee...I mean I know it is just words but it felt good to read...He is calling me tonight after we both get out of work...We both work two jobs, divorced and have 3 children...I am just going with it....thanks for the responses

ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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