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timeforchange posted 6/4/2013 23:27 PM

This weekend DS9 will make his First Holy Communion.

I am divorced and have been apart from ex wh for 3.5 years. He lives with OW. I have never met her..... Or seen her. But I will do this weekend at the restaurant after the church ceremony.

I keep waiting to have emotions or trepidation about this meeting... But am happy to report I feel nothing.

This is what indifference feels like.

3 years ago I would never have imagined simply not caring about meeting her. Time is a wonderfu thing.

I am actually very grateful to her... She played a part in releasing me from a hellish, abusive marriage. Am quite tempted (but won't) to thank her!!!

My life today is wonderful. Full of laughter, happiness and joy. I give thanks everyday for this beautiful 2nd chance in life.

Meeting OW is a total
Non event and that feels good.

sadtoo posted 6/4/2013 23:45 PM

persevere posted 6/4/2013 23:59 PM

I really wish we had a LIKE for posts - because this one is just awesome timeforchange.

I'm closer to where you are every day and I love that. I also occasionally consider the hell that I lived with for so long is now OW's hell...lol...and that can't help but make me smile.

Hold your head up high lady and handle yourself as I know you will - that you are free and she is now the imprisoned one....

cmego posted 6/5/2013 07:46 AM

better4me posted 6/5/2013 11:37 AM

This is what indifference feels like.

CallMeRed1 posted 6/5/2013 11:40 AM

MissD posted 6/5/2013 17:38 PM

I really wish we had a LIKE for posts - because this one is just awesome timeforchange.

Agree, very nice!

kernel posted 6/5/2013 18:07 PM

Love this!

Mousse242 posted 6/5/2013 19:12 PM

You can always thank her for taking the SOB off your hands.

FieldsOfLavender posted 6/5/2013 21:32 PM

I look forward to the day that I will be where you are timeforchange.

okaynow posted 6/6/2013 00:02 AM

movingforward777 posted 6/6/2013 00:48 AM

It is wonderful when you reach the point where you don't give a rat's ass what they are doing or who they are doing it with.....
Always take the high road...although you would love to tell her a few things you are so much the bigger person for not doing it....
Let the focus be on your son and his first communion...you don't have to sit with your exH and his wife at the restaurant...you can put yourself at the far end of the table away from them, surround yourself with family you can talk with, and enjoy the celebrations!
I'm happy for you that you have reached the "indifference" stage...it makes life so much easier when you don't have an emotional response to everything your exH is doing/saying.....HUGS

NeverAgain2013 posted 6/6/2013 10:58 AM

I would absolutely hand her a small bouquet and thank her verbally for playing a role in what's turned out to be the very best time of your life.

Yeah, I'm a bitch like that.

stronggirl72 posted 6/6/2013 13:49 PM

I would absolutely hand her a small bouquet and thank her verbally for playing a role in what's turned out to be the very best time of your life.

^^^

Beemer posted 6/6/2013 14:01 PM

Good for you!

tryingagain74 posted 6/6/2013 14:03 PM

That's so great to hear. I hope that I can reach that goal as well.

Gr8Lady posted 6/6/2013 14:16 PM

Such powerful words. I personally thank you for sharing.
My mother used to say "blessing in disguise" as message of encouragement.
OW significantly did you a favor and your life is once again joyful
Congratulations to your DS9 important life milestone!!!!!

timeforchange posted 6/7/2013 05:38 AM

Ah thanks for all the funny and touching comments.

Must confess am torn between thanking her, wishing her luck (he is non-medicated bi polar) or telling her to run!!!! She is very young (20 years his junior)!!

Won't do any of those though...

Will enjoy the day... And Before we meet the ex, ows and horrendous ex inlaws in the evening we have 45 friends and family at home in the afternoon.

That will be the true celebration and my way of thanking all those who supported us and befriended us over the last 3.5 years.

Hoping to see more of you here in Indifference Land very soon.

BoardPearl posted 6/7/2013 10:35 AM

Isn't it wonderful? That feeling of indifference.

I have met OW at drop offs a couple of times, and we are friendly (they live in another country so it isn't often). I was scared to death to meet her two years past Dday, but it felt great afterwards. I was done with the wondering.

Congratulations on your DS Holy Communion!

homewrecked2011 posted 6/8/2013 23:04 PM

How did meeting OW go?