He caught me reading the book this morning and snatched it out of my hands. He said he didn't want me knowing all his lines come from the book and that he felt like he needed to write them on the palms of his hands.
It's been more than two years since DD most of which has just been surviving WH getting sober. After 40 years of hard drinking and 14 years of a crazy abusive family up until then, he really is emotionally retarded. But, at least he recognizes that now and is actually trying.
I know, if I hadn't turned into such a hardass, demanding more from him and refusing to let him rugs weep, he wouldn't have bothered making any changes. I have you all to thank for my bitch boots.
I'm glad your WH is reading....it sucks that he's speaking in script from the book, but maybe he needs to keep repeating those lines until he understands them, and then he'll be able to speak on his own.
Your WH doesn't even know how very, very lucky he is that you are willing to stick by his side whilst he is getting sober and "growing" up.
I am happy your WH is at least taking baby steps and moving forward. I really don't think I could or would be as patient as you, but your WH is/was a very sick man. You are truly very special.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Yes, that came out of his mouth. Guess who is now a bitch to live with?
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
My H is an alcoholic too and that alone is enough to push a M into D. Add infidelity and it all seems too unforgivable. I know how hard it is to live with a drunk. I know how hard it is to live with a cheater. I'm proud of you for finding your bitch boots and wearing them to kick some butt!
...now, can I borrow them, size 8.5?
On the other hand, if I had gone the divorce route, WH may have drunk himself out of his business and into the gutter or prison, leaving the boys and I with nothing. Even WH believes this to be true. It is the direction he was headed.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.