Good for you. As you I had never broken up with anyone.
It is amazing how some sayings begin to have meaning such as "Breaking up is hard to do."
Glad you were able to recognize the red flags in the relationship and the possibility of continued healing on your part.
Been in the dating game for couple years now and have found stateing the facts and moving on quickly is the right thing to do.
Found that the healing process can be accomplished during the process. We find out how ready we are by dating. The water must be tested before we can know we can swim in it.
Found that in the process I have met women close to who I should marry..and at times wished I could combine a couple of them and have one perfect one...presently I am in a relationship that fits very well...she may be the one...I am certianly open to the possibility.
Presently you may feel you will never find the right person for you..but believe me she is out there! When you find her you will be ready to commit your heart again without fear.
For me it has taken nearly fives years from discovery to a freedom to love again. It is always in us to love..we just need to set proper boundaries for relationship...know what we want in a mate...allow them to be tested as to honesty or integrity and then allow our self to be our self in the love we can freely give.
[This message edited by UnsettledOne at 5:03 AM, June 8th (Saturday)]