Much better, my FWS worked hard to understand herself, the whys and origins, and the damage she inflicted.
We actually had a fight three days ago, big argument actually, we've never physically fought. But, in contrast to her stuffing things and being boiling angry inside, it came out, we talked, we resolved the issue, and we understand each other. She took the initiative to do that.
That never happened in years past.
A lot of growth on her part.
She also realizes that her alcoholic father visiting the day before, with alcohol on his breath may have contributed to how she felt, not just that I'm such an amazing clueless asshole.
Although she did call me an asshole and tell me to go fuck myself, and I did respond by saying "I've been doing that for two weeks", we could laugh about it the next day, apologize honestly, and understand each other.
It gets better if both people work on it. I would never, ever, want to go through the hell of the first two years again.