Am I in denial still? MC's keep asking why the past matters...He's done remarkably well so far with owning his stuff, IC, fathering, husbanding, etc.
Does anyone else have a "but?" but still trying to move forward.
Guess I hit a bump in the road. I've been good for a while now...
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:50 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]
AYFKM? I didn't even know half the questions I wanted/needed to ask 2 months after d-day. Some MC's just don't get it.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Yes, they are both chemical abuse MFT's, one a pscychologist.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:59 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]
Some MC's just don't get it.
and your MC asking you why the past matters? Because his actions in the past crushed your life into a million pieces, because you need to feel emotionally safe with your spouse and if past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior - Um yeah, that's why it matters.
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”
IMHO your MC is Full of Shit and should be either shot or fired. After a few months? Fuggedaboudit !!!
I told one that I would gladly pay for as many sessions as she thought it "should" take as long as I got as many sessions as it "Did" take. That shut her up.
I have to stop before I start ranting, but in my personal experience, only about one in ten counselors are worth the money, and only one in ten of those are actually excellent. Given these odds, you should feel zero compunction to keep one that isn't working for you, and all the freedom in the world to drop them like a hot potato and look for better. You didn't marry them.
It really is a roller coaster.
We are in R.
I missed my session this week. I think I realized they can no longer help ME. They're really there to help my dry drunk of a H...
Don't worry, I'll get a good one this time! :)