Do I think we'll make it? Heck ya. There are bad days, but the good days outnumber them and are fantastic.
So...being only 9 months into R, should we be even thinking about going away for our 20th?
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
On another issue, the kids probably need to see a stable home life for a while. Mom there consistently and showing them a truly loving side. How are they holding up?
4 years after was our 25th anniversary. H so wanted to go away to celebrate. It just wasn't in my heart. So what we did - and this is just semantics, but it allowed me to enjoy a great vkay in Antiguq - we went away but did not call it an anniversary trip. It was simply a vacation. Something we desperately needed.
I'm sure in his mind it was an anniversary trip still, but it helped me not to think of it as an anniversary celebration.
You have plenty of time to decide if you will be ready to celebrate... cruises aren't exactly selling out these days!
On 3/14 you posted that your W left and that she wasn't really doing what was needed to heal herself, much less to R. Apparently she came back, because on May 14, you posted that you were separating and she moved out again.
R is possible for you, but your W is the road block. You're already on board; her commitment is very, very much unproven. One day at a time now, and for months to come.
I understand you're excited to have her back with you, but you need to treat your relationship as extremely shaky for the foreseeable future - focus your energy on today alone.
[This message edited by sisoon at 2:23 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]