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juki (original poster member #34784) posted at 11:22 AM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
And I'm on the road!
Thank you so much for the support.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 12:48 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 11:05 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
Have a safe trip. Let us know when you get there.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 12:46 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
WOOT!!!!!!!
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 12:54 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
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FinallyHappy ( member #308) posted at 1:11 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
Great news!!!
Have a wonderful time and be careful!
"Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none." ~Ben~
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 1:46 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
juki (original poster member #34784) posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
Thanks for the well wishes!
It was a really good day. My little girl (whippet/boxer/pit/princess) is a great travelling companion.
Ironically, we have ended up in the town the original a happened 25 years ago. I decided to stop when it got dark, and this was where it got dark.
We are parked at the beach that I used to take our son to after it happened. were going to stay here at the "hotel mazda 3" and hit the road when I wake up.
I feel so good to be going home. I feel so bad for my sister and my mom. I told my mom today that I was on my way. It was nice to be able to tell her something that would lift her spirits a bit. She hasn't seen me for a couple years. She's already buried 2 of my siblings. This has got to be killing her.
My sister isn't doing well. I just hope they have the pain managed. I don't know how I'm going to deal with her dickhead husband. Just fake it I guess. He grosses me out. He tried to kiss me on their wedding night. I was 16. A couple of years ago, I was begging him (from the other side of the country)to take her to the hospital when she was suicidal, she phoned me and told me she wanted to die. He wouldn't take her. I had to track down her adult daughter at her work, and tell her to take her mom to the hospital. She took her to her dr, who sent her by ambulance to the psych ward. But then they let her go. Back to him. Now he seems to be gay. Sorry for venting. I just want to punch him in the throat.
Oh and I'm really enjoying getting to see how beautiful Canada is. I didn't appreciate it the last time I drove across, but I wasn't alone. I can't wait to get to the Great Lakes and the prairies, ok and the mountains.
I think I'll go back on the other side of the border. Make a big circle. :) or oval.
Have a good night. :)
This is so good for me.
FinallyHappy ( member #308) posted at 10:10 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
Fantastic!
Dogs are the best buddies ever.
Enjoy your journey, and if something you see is really gorgeous or just 'gets to you', snap a photo and share it with us.
I'm so sorry about the health of your family (and I would love to punch your BIL in the throat also), but you're headed in the right direction. Just ignore him to the best of your ability. If your sister makes unwise choices;..well.....you've done all you can do.
Nature has always had the power to 'bring me back around'. Always. A road trip engenders power. Always.
Be safe, oh ye brave one. Focus on YOU.
I've been where you are. I've done what you're doing.
Have faith in yourself.
"Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none." ~Ben~
juki (original poster member #34784) posted at 3:44 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Just checking in.
I ended up not being able to sleep in the car, so we drove all night. It was way too dark and quiet by the river. So found a parking lot where i thought I could just blend in. Then I realized it was for a bar. Did that twice! No. So back to the road we went and I was relieved to put that place behind me. I posted on fb where i was and my sons ex gfs parents live there. She commented about coming to their place. So had a place to stay and still wanted to drive. It was a great night for it. I slept for an hour this morning. I don't know how I drove that much!
My little princess demanded a room tonight.
We're exhausted! It dawned on me today that I'm driving across the country by myself and it feels like the most natural thing in the world!
I think this is kind of a trial run for my "banana van" I have an old yellow vw van and I would love to take it across the country, making and selling dresses. Now I know I can do it. And the van would be even more fun.
I talked to a couple who have the same one today. It was so cute. And they were adorable and we were all from the same place. We're nowhere near that place. I love coincidences. :
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juki (original poster member #34784) posted at 7:48 AM on Wednesday, June 12th, 2013
I arrived at my sons house this morning. It is so great to be with him.
That was an amazing trip. I loved every minute. I gained so much clarity into my life and what i need to be happy. My dog and I are exhausted. She was such a great little traveller.
I saw my sister this morning. She was so happy and peaceful, it's hard to believe she's full of cancer. I'm so glad I came when I did.
We were planning on taking her to our home town. She wants to go. But she cannot be moved.
Time for sleep in a real bed.
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 10:24 AM on Wednesday, June 12th, 2013
Take good care of yourself.
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D-day 2: 3/28/2013
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You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 9:42 PM on Wednesday, June 12th, 2013
I'm glad you made it safely. I'm glad you and family are able to be together.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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