Thank you everyone, I just wasn't sure if showers had changed that much, to answer a few questions
Yes the grooms family is doing the traditional rehearsal dinner, and the brides family is doing all the traditional things that they do
She is young 24, and I don't really know her all that well, in the 3 years they have been together, I have spent about 60 days with her,
The naughty games was a joke, my elderly mom will be there, as well as some of my elderly aunts, plus I don't know the brides mom, so I wouldn't want to offend her, as she is attending also. The one game that I am working on is a get to know the bride, can't have anything that is too hard due to elderly relatives
The bride is here visiting now, so I had taken her to see the venues that are available to use, I had her number them as to which one she preferred, and when she confirms the date for the beginning of September that she can be here, then I can see which ones are available
I just want her to enjoy the shower, get to know her future family and friends better, some of our relatives have never met her,
I already have a list of 67 guests for the shower,that's just girls,
I have not invited anyone that is not invited to the wedding,
I have several different menus planned out, depending on whether it's an indoor or outdoor event, and time of day, even thought of doing like an afternoon tea kind of shower, if it becomes a co-ed shower then the food will be grilled, I think that I'm leaning towards a cupcake tree of assorted cupcakes, instead of a cake
I don't mind if she gives me ideas, like favorite colour, flowers, I don't even mind if she tells me a theme that she wants,
I just wasn't sure if she did the planning and I did the work and money. They at least went and registered at places here, and I have suggested that the shower here in Canada be a gift card tree, they don't get there own place here in Canada until October,which is after the shower, and they need everything because they have both only lived at home, where everything is provided for them, of course they both have computers, tvs, and other various electronic stuff
I have been building them a kitchen box, with assorted pantry items, I figure then they will at least have food for when they return from their honeymoon
One more question is do they give little thank you gifts to all guests at the shower?