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sicktomy posted 6/6/2013 08:05 AM

So I've been using this "streaking app" to change myself for te better. You put in something you want to do every day and then at the end of the day you put an x if you were successful and the app tells you how many days in a row you are currently on and what your longest streak.
I know it's kind of dumb but it's worked well for me on working out, drinking water, not eating deserts etc.
Now I'm lloking for things that could make our relationship better so I am adding;
1. Initiate cuddling or similar every night - the hope is that eventually when ever we're in bed it's just natural and that's what we do (Pavlov's dog)
2. Share my feeling and triggers daily- I need to show her more emotions.

Please give suggestions if you have any but the only rule is that it has to be measurable. (Be a better person is not).
Thanks to anyone who answers this silly challenge but it works for me.

huRtZ413 posted 6/6/2013 09:40 AM

A gesture that you were thinking of her . flowers , grab dinner so she doesn't have to cook. Things like that maybe help at home like clean the restrooms or do laundry for her

huRtZ413 posted 6/6/2013 09:41 AM

A gesture that you were thinking of her . flowers , grab dinner so she doesn't have to cook. Things like that maybe help at home like clean the restrooms or do laundry for her

huRtZ413 posted 6/6/2013 09:41 AM

A gesture that you were thinking of her . flowers , grab dinner so she doesn't have to cook. Things like that maybe help at home like clean the restrooms or do laundry for her

huRtZ413 posted 6/6/2013 09:41 AM

A gesture that you were thinking of her . flowers , grab dinner so she doesn't have to cook. Things like that maybe help at home like clean the restrooms or do laundry for her

huRtZ413 posted 6/6/2013 09:43 AM

Sorry don't know why my phone posted so many times

tryingtosmile posted 6/6/2013 15:17 PM

I don't think it's silly at all.

WH packed my lunch for me the other day (something he never does). And he put a note in it that said I love you have great day hurry home xoxo.

IDK if that is what you are talking about but maybe leave her little love notes that let her know you are thinking about her.

wifeno2 posted 6/6/2013 15:23 PM

If you know her "love language" I would incorporate that. And apologize.

I would like it if WH knew, and recognized my triggers. Like if I had to drive to or past a certain place that day for him to ask me how it was. And apologize.

Recognize and express appreciation (genuine) for something that day. Something that was done, or just something about your BS in general. And apologize.

Did I mention apologize?

ashamedWW posted 6/6/2013 15:36 PM

I think that's a great idea. I would love to know the name of the app. Is it called "streaking app"?

LA44 posted 6/6/2013 16:39 PM

I LOVE stuff like that. H has been doing this consistently for months now (we both read the 5 Love Languages).

Any of the suggestions you rec'd are wonderful. How about - walk in the door every day next week bearing a small gift (flower, fav treat, card).

I don't want to threadjack this great post but wanted to address wifeno2

I would like it if WH knew, and recognized my triggers. Like if I had to drive to or past a certain place that day for him to ask me how it was. And apologize.

Perhaps just tell him what your triggers are. I have told mine. I also let him know what he could do to help me through them. Part of our past problem was not communicating our hurts so...I am making sure I do this.

LA

[This message edited by LA44 at 4:41 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]

sicktomy posted 6/6/2013 19:23 PM

It's simply called "streaking". But unfortunately I use a Blackberry PlayBook so not sure if it's anywhere else. It works well for a competitive person like me and I'm up to 16 streaks of things I want to do differently.

cpacan posted 6/7/2013 05:31 AM

I don't know how far out you are, but I think that selfishness is key to a lot of betrayals.

So for me, it would be essential that you each and every day demonstrate your willingness to become less selfish - if it's your wish of course.

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